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I have had some trouble lately. I have no more approach anxiety and I have enough skill to make them laugh and play with their hair a little bit. I number close them and we part ways but I am terrible at time bridging and day game. I couldn't anchor feelings to things and I need some advice on how I would be able to better my texting game and time bridge more effectively.
How long are you taking in your set total? Are you just hanging maybe 15 minutes getting the number and rolling out? If so, then stay in set longer build more rapport. It also helps to do some isolation if you have the ability where you borrow the girl for a bit to have a few minutes of you and her time. Stay within eye sight of the group so they know she is okay. This is critical to avoid interruptions for them checking on her. Then return her to the group after just a few minutes of you and her talking one on one. This builds added trust with the group she is with. Later try for an instant-date or "bounce" I think they call it. Take them somewhere new with you for kind of a short mini-date. If you have to take the whole fucking group of 20 people with you both then so be it. Do it! It helps so much!
Get your phone# about 15 minutes in or so like you normally would. Take your time, build some rapport, hang out in set. It is a good idea while in set to go ahead and setup a date. The reason is simple. Her buying temperature is not going to be any hotter than when she's looking into your eyes in that moment. This will result in much better dates and less flakes. It also builds congruency. You show you like her, you want her #, and you have a date setup. Then you just have to follow up on when you are meeting.
After having said all that I just realized you might be doing some day game in which a # is about all you can grab since they could have some real time constraints. If you can try to push to grab a quick coffee or something even an appetizers somewhere close. Again, while doing that setup the date. If not then you are just going to have to fall back on texting and calling to build added rapport so they are comfortable enough meeting you for the date.
Quick trick. Within that very hour of meeting her. Send her a very simple text. "It was nice bumping into you today. Have a kick butt day." or something. Just one line very simple. Your goal here is to make her smile again, period.
Make her anchor those positive feelings with you again. Then later on that day or the next you can start your usual text and calls. Don't wait to message cause that usually backfires for guys. I prefer calls cause that is what I grew up doing, I can talk to a girl on the phone for hours on end about nothing and everything, many people know prefer text. Whatever gets you results.
Best of luck!
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