| A bit about this approach. Usually PUAs learn to forget friendship and go straight to fucking. This is a tutorial for developing friendship and if possible, natural escalation to fucking. I've learned a lot from this forum over the time I've been here (and want to give back to it from my experiences.) A lot of PUAs will think I'm a mental patient but using the PUA skills I initially developed, instead of being an introvert, I became a DLVed introverted sex addicted chump who approached heaps of chicks. I frequently had lots of rejection and no closes. I thought about how I could improve and sometimes, I had intense chemistries with babes I never dreamed of. I've approached enough girls to know when I should've called off approaches and just go into F-Z either because I was not interested enough to continue a relationship (she was pretty but I didn't want the baggage) or because I couldn't yet gain a foothold to increase attraction. Full disclosure - I am a PUA-in-training but I wanted to document a really special thing - mutual attraction not only based on the physical but the psychological.
The main reason AFCs are rejected in the starting phase is because they tend to be needy for attention so if you are not needy, you will have an intense headstart over others. This method tries to KO AFCs from DLVing by approaching heaps of women.
When most AFCs (a younger me included,) approached HB8-9, we used to want to have sex like crazed rabbits. As a result, we approach set after set. After a while, some of the more astute HBs will notice that you have approached HB which will either tell them that you are a PUA or whatnot. It also DLVs if you aren't sharing emotionally high states because your body language will tell them that you are a needy little boy. Girls don't want boys, they want secure men. Therefore, if you are still a boy, approach the HB with the mindset that you want to be friends and only if you are satisfied that she has met your standards that you will consider her as gf/fucking material. (PS. HBs as friends are really useful for social networking - they'll drive you from earth to the stratosphere)
To build attraction, I'm not talking about push pull to stimulate a one sided attraction. You can try them but as long as you are a PUA practitioner and not an AFC turned natural, it will feel fake.
I'm talking about natural chemistry. There are some conversations where we have between a girl when no active pursuit is being driven. You two happen to be with each other at that very moment almost as if it was destiny. It might be at a table, or at a bus stop but you look at her and she looks at you. You find her attractive. But she discloses that she has a current boyfriend.
I don't know about others but I respect the bro code mainly because she's too low status if she messes around when she has a current boyfriend. After all, if she breaks up, and we hang out, will she repeat? You betcha! As long as you're no longer the alpha in her sea, she will ditch you like Rose and Jack ditched the Titanic. There is no romance in a sinking ship.
Anyway, there's no kino, no attraction, nothing except what's between your eyes and her eyes. There's something special, her eyes and lips light up into a smile and it is infectious. It is destiny and it's not an I want to f*** you right now look of uncertainty but its a I find you extremely attractive but I can't figure why. Maybe it is meant to be. If you look at her and she looks at you and IOI (plays with hair, smiles, playful, faces you directly) then BAM - go escalate kino then. But don't escalate like Base 1 to 4 in 30 minutes, go at your own pace. If you feel like kissing her, then go for it and go for it like there's no tomorrow. Don't kiss her just for the sake of escalation. This is REAL chemistry - it makes you high, it stops you from sleeping, it keeps you on her mind.
Why does it work? Because you're not running routine after routine, it will push realism instead of mystery. Only a few people can correctly pull of mystery properly - either mysterious people or actors/actresses (if you are a chick) but doing mystery routines can only work for someone intensely interested in magic and the like. Push your personality by sharing the highs and lows of your life, not by acting as a little bitch but telling the girl how you actually stood back up and became totally fine.
A second thing, most PUAs go for extroversion because it brings out extremities, e.g. woooo lets goo, and it formats the girls mind to believing that this guy is comfortable with these traits... It has its strengths and I personally feel great being extroverted. However, if you are by birth an introvert, you can be caught out in the initial stages while faking your way to extroversion. If so, you're going to get rejected by the girl, when she finds out that you are a fake, or by an AMOG or mother hen who will descend on you like an avalanche on a skier. So what do you do? You fake it with others but build it along the conversation. It's okay to be introverted when you meet the girl because it'll slip under her bitch shield, then escalate introversion to extroversion. This will show situational confidence. Now if you don't want to fuck her then still raise to extroversion but don't escalate via kino and go to Friend Zone. If you find her attractive and escalate extroversion and it will spike attraction naturally from this chump to someone who has direction in his life. If you want her, then you'll do what it takes to get her but not from necessity but from mutual attraction. To do this, escalate via kino because by then you have already gauged her interest. Finally note that natural chemistry comes and goes based on changes in you and the girl. It's like a crush. It comes as strongly as it goes, so with heaps of HB in FZ, you will not only broaden your network but if you suddenly find her intensely attractive and can spark IOIs from her, then you can push to relationship status with more rewards than would otherwise be possible.
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The method is for a girlfriend. Otherwise, carry on with the MM, or other routines