| I APOLOGIZE FOR THE ESSAY, BUT THE SITUATION IS A MASSIVE CONFUSION AND I THOUGHT IT WOULD GIVE YOU GUYS A BETTER UNDERSTANDING
So theres this girl who recently broke up with her boyfriend.
so i start talking to her for about 2 weeks, she seemed interest. one thing led to the next, I ended at her joint but I didnt make a move as i wanted to respect her. We chilled , cuddled, spoon had a good night. tells me that she wasnt looking for a relationship and wanted something casual. ok im cool with that
Day after Im at hers again , half asleep, got her horny, made out and fingered her abit. All of a sudden she goes cold, and that was it for the night. we just cuddled and talked again.
afew days later i went over her house, we chilled and i figured i wasnt making my advances confidently enough, so i tried again, but this time she gave me the full cold shoulder and didnt reciprocate. She tells me that there was "no spark" when we had made out the other day and that she was not the type of girl to do random hook ups (i respect that) and that "we moving too fast". it got me questioning about this spark. I ended up sleeping the night again we cuddled and talked. and i thought she wanted something casual? hmm
anyway, ive grown to really like this girl. we text, but she sometimes ignores and respond late. I asked her out, but she was busy , fair enough. At that point i knew that was it, she lost interest, imma move on. stopped texting her for a week. All of a sudden she asked "how i was going?" at this moment she was kinda still in my head, so i texted her back thinknig she had time to sort out her feelings.
we talked again for acouple of days, then the coldness again. Ok, playing hard to get i see, so i tried being persistent and texting her whenever i could (not in a needy way), it got better, i asked her to come out with me, she accepted. Great we went out , then I end up at hers watching a movie. Cuddled, just stroking her hair, arm and back, she at first didnt seem to mind. Then all of a sudden she goes cold (maybe i went too far down the back, ops). She then says she is tired and turns to the other side of the bed. I too was exhausted, i couldnt even start a conversation. So i laid there, thinking "what am i doing?", "is she waiting for me to make a movee", so i tried to persuade her and joke around abit to come cuddle. This backfired, i got her pissed off, i was tired so i was quite moody too and frustrated at the same time with all the mixed signals i have been getting.
ok she tells me to go home, but i wanted to find out why she was acting this way, because ive been so clouded by the mixed signals i didnt know what was genuine. So i confronted her (not sure if bad idea), she told me that she really enjoyed my company but she doesnt do random hook ups , and that she felt smothered and pressured. So it got me thinking " why did you let me cuddle with you then?!" ok now i realise it was moving fast again, I shouldve taken it down a notch.
Ok now i realise what she meant by the spark, i didnt know girls take this so seriously. NO SPARK = no hook up. ok that bummed me abit, she doesnt like me in that way. ok whatever, i wrote her a text when i got home saying "i didnt mean to pressure you blah blah blah" and that i dont mind chilling with her .
she replied back saying she is not ready for a relationship, she said she enjoyed hanging out with me but that we moved too quick. She told me she didnt want to send any more mixed signals so she asked me what could she do.
I told her that we can still talk, but for now give it some time. DONE
Now the question is, should i take it slow, get to know eachother abit more, talk to her later in the week or should i forget about this girl?
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