I know this girl on campus and we live literally next to each other in dorms, and we are really good friends and always go out together which is really fun and enjoy, but lately I had this thing where I started to feel a little jealous when she hooks up when we go out clubbing, I also hook up on my own but for some fucked up reason I have this in the back of my head..stays for a while until I start reasoning myself out of it. She is 30 and I'm 24 and i HAVE NEVER thought of hooking up with her at all and I don't want to ruin my friendship with her..but this jealousy thing is fuckin pissing me off I've been sarging for a while now and she knows what goes on and as a friend we laugh about it and its all fine and dandy, but whenever she gets busy or something and I don't see her for a while sometimes I think maybe she is pissed at something? maybe she needs space? and I KNOW she does not have a clue about that and she does not feel the same way about that infact she is a really cool person. HOW THE FUCK can I get over or get out of this state of mind? I don't want to do something or say something stupid at any point cuz of this fucked up mentality that would ruin the friendship..please bro's some tips and don't say I like her cuz I dont and I wont EVEN consider acting upon anything I just dont want to lose a friend..thanks

If you REALLY don't think you're into her, give her some space. Just don't hang out with her for a little bit and let the feelings blow over.

If they dissipate, you can try hanging out again.

Also, don't go clubbing with her anymore! You obviously feel protective for whatever reason, so remove yourself from the situation.

If you're really friends, you can go to movies and grab coffee. You can find another wing, finding another friend is a lot harder.

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I think you're right, she is going over on Wednesday to see her friends for like 4 days or so I guess that'll work for the best, plus I was thinking about not going clubbing with her, because for some fucked up reason I do feel protective..so ya but did that ever happen to you? because this is the first time that ever happens to me and its getting on my nerves

Generally, at least for me, when a friendship with a girl gets too close I start to see her as a potential partner or as a sister. Either way, you get protective and don't want to think of some dude ramming her.

It's part of our culture. As men, we feel like we want to objectify women we don't care about, but we want to protect those we love and care for. When we feel other men are treated our loved one as an object, we get offended.

It's not right, women have just as much right to have a good time, but it's still pretty deep in our psyche. I blame our culture and media.

Long answer for yes, I've had similar feelings and I think you're making a good decision not clubbing with her anymore.

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Just wanted a quick opinion on this update, today I did as I should do and just stayed away in my room, went to the Gym ect..usually we go out for smokes daily, but today I just refrained from knocking on her door assuming she needed her time alone or something or atleast thats how it seemed. We met in the kitchen I was cooking and she was like hey are you cooking? I said yes then she grabbed an apple and then just left and all day she hasn't knocked or opened a convo which is quite weird since we talk daily/chat/ have a quick laugh..but it seems like she is being distant for some reason I won't say something is bothering her because I can tell..What do you suggest? should I just keep it that way till she decides to mingle again? "assuming she needs time alone?" or if she doesn't should I just talk to her about it?

You could be over-thinking it. If you are usually the one who initiates conversation, this could be part of it. She also might be having a busy day.

If she keeps avoiding you and looks distraught, there's nothing wrong with talking to her and seeing if she's okay. First and foremost, she's your friend.

Just take an honest look at the situation and see if you are over-thinking it.

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Read the top of the page before posting.

"IT IS AGAINST THIS BOARD'S RULES TO POST THREADS ABOUT JUST ONE GIRL"

This is not a sticking point. If this is the way you act witha female friend, I hate to think how controlling and possessive you would be with a girlfriend.

As a general rule I show as little interest in female friends as possible and try hook them up with other dudes. I had it before where I liked some chicks, some were older, others the same age and I would end up banging them.

When you actively take part in pawning them off to others while being awesome they naturally gravitate towards you. The guys see value in you, respect you and this rubs off on her no matter how alpha the other guys are. Just be passive, try introduce others to her and don't hang around. When she starts turning guys away she's most likely showing interest in you. Then when she isn't going home with someone you "lose" your keys and stay in hers for the night. She'll let subtle hints like "You can stay in my bed.. It gets cold on the couch." You do, lie next to her, turn off the lights and let her show interest in you. Then kiss her. You'll be drunk, she'll be drunk and if it doesn't go well it's no biggy. Just act like it was nothing and go sleep. If it's ever brought up you're just drunk and it was nothing: Friendship intact. You'll most likely fuck her that night anyway, especially if she's older.

You guys missed the whole point of me not even wanting anything to happen and Damien seems to be the only one who understood that, plus if you got that I'm controlling and obsessive from what I wrote then either reread it or don't bother posting insignificant replies that are based upon mere paragraphs
@Damien ya i thought about that aswell, but ya we talked about the day and apparently it was a busy day preparing for the trip tomorrow, nonetheless thanks for your info bro it helped alot

Respect the board rules if you want respectful replies. You wrote about one girl, it's not a Sticking Point. Even if you had posted it in the correct section (General Questions), your question has nothing to do with pickup. It belongs on a Friendship Forum.

However, I don't believe that you are just looking to be friends with this girl. I think if she was in your bed right now, you'd be gagging to fuck her. Don't lie to yourself.

So either you're more into this girl than you're letting on or your question has nothing to do with pickup. Which is it?

Sorry about the whole "forums rule" thing, but honestly I don't want anything from her I'm on a PUA forum learning to pick up and I sarge every week no strings attached. I don't understand the point of making me sound as a liar of some sort, but I wanted an honest opinion about this issue and believe me if I wanted to sleep with her I'd ask about that, why would I disguise that on a fuckin pua forum am I right?

No problem man. You need help with anything else, feel free to message me.

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