To the Man,

I am at a review school for a licensure exam. I met these two girls. They formed a set, no guys. Another girl came and joined us she has a boyfriend I learned later.

One girl was a 4 the other a 9, and the girl with the boyfriend an 8. 10 being the highest score.
I was really pinning for girl-9. I opened the set with a funny joke, and everything went great after that. It seemed girl-9 and me had something going, I could have pushed. But here comes girl-4 with her butting in on our conversation. Girl-8 also had these boyfriend issues that I listened too. All the while girl-9 and I drifted apart. Everything got awkward after that with girl-9.

I kinda deepen on conversations, so when girl-4 butts in I almost always go in conversation with her. I do not know how to direct my focus on getting girl-9.

This happened for a span of a day, at school. I was gaming instead of studying.

I like to know what to do to keep something going with girl-9. I have her number and it is already been a week. I like to call her, but I do not know how to approach (the awkward jealousy of?) girl-9.

One last thing, I kinda had the intention of developing a 4 some with 4, 8, 9 and me. I guess it blew over me when girl-9 withheld attention from me.

I feel I would look needy if I force things. Please advise on the proper approach.

That's it,
Thanks!

Possibly casually invite Girl-9 out for a drink to blow off some steam after the exams are over. Invite in-person rather than text since I'm assuming you see her regularly.
What's that saying, play on playa? :p

Thanks there Ocean,

Yeah, having playa mentality really sucked that time. Which goes to show my focus problem. But at that time it kinda seemed possible. Guess I had my head up there for a moment.

One more thing Ocean:
I approach sets alone and I really am a good listener, that's why really aggressive women kinda monopolize me even when I am pinning for the more attractive woman. I am also sometimes privy to some girls conference because I really just shut up when women speak. I actively listen. That's why maybe it comes across that I am a playa: Because women are around me. I honestly know I am not, but it kinda rubs-off on me sometimes. Resulting to me thinking of foursome fantasies.

Any advice for dealing with aggressive women? How can I continue with the more attractive women in a set? Possible foursome (is it even possible at first approach)?

Anything's possible! I fucking love that you were thinking 'foursome' around these 3 girls. That is very inspirational.

Also it tells me that you are thinking about the right things and not "how should I neg girl 3 and stand in this certain posture etc."

In my view, stepping into a "set" with the proper energy is more important than anything else combined.
Walk away from the aggressive ones you don't want; focus on the attractive ones you want.
Awesome. A lot of guys don't do this.

Why don't you re-engage the girl back in the convo by asking for her opinion on the topic you are speaking with the 4 or look over to her every few minutes with a big smile.

You have to get that 4 telling the others how great you are when you're away.. That way you can IOD the 9, while still conveying value via the 4. You'll become this amazing guy that's not interested in her (the 9).. It worked for me in College

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