Let me start this topic with an odd phrase... I like to fight...

Since i was a kid I've always fought with others in the neighborhood, this translated to getting involved with boxing then kickboxing and finally no-holds-barred type stuff. I did this stuff for about 25 years (im 43)

Then i got sick and required life saving surgery... two artificial heart valves live in my heart now permanently. I take blood thinners for the rest of my life. This means no more fighting... ever... I get rocked by a punch to the head or body, i start internally bleeding... i could die... it happens...

This new reality has had a sever effect on my game. for example, Im sargeing this woman currently. She is fantastic. Smokin'. I was dating her, then banged another girl, she found out so she went out on a date with an ex... but came back to me when i promised it would never happen again.

Here is the problem. She's worried that if we ever run into this other guy he is going to be a real jerk. I know myself... Im gonna want to kick his ass then. But its a new world for me... getting in a fight is extremely dangerous for me now. so what do i do? I have to listen how he hangs out in seedy bars and is a former hockey player... and that is suppose to scare me... and im sure builds into sarging points for him...

The old me would have been very comfortable with all of this. Im not saying I would have got in a fight with the guy, but had it come down to it I could more than take care of myself. I had that confidence. I no longer have that confidence because i cant allow myself to have that confidence.

how do i handle this pudwacker? and future pudwackers like him?

Puas avoid fights, man. What are you doing with your life??

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The secret to most things is to never hold yourself to other people's standards.

I hear you lopsider... but isnt it hard to avoid conflict when competing with others for high value woman?

As for my life... life is good. My career is on track... my health is good... eat right... exercise... ect... I have limitations now that i never used to have... but trouble has alway seems to find me... I'm curious how others deal with others who are competing for the same woman and begin to get agressive or threatening toward you. I can see getting punched... particularly if the woman I am gaming has a boyfriend...