Hey Fellas,
so I was just wanted some input on this. As newbie to all this, I was been talking to this chick for a bit, and we've only hung out three times. The first time was to get her to open up since she was talking to someone else, so I took this as a competition to see how far i would get and because i was just that confident that i could win xD. By the time we hung out the second time she stopped talking to the other guy *boost in ego* and so i started to build kino and almost got that kiss close after i got her home. 3 time which was yesterday same thing build kino and it looked like we were a couple if you never knew us. so i was went for a kiss and she rejected it haha. I was laughing about and she was kinda bothered but i made her laugh and we got past it, plus her friend invited me to go out and eat with them which i did afterwards her friend dropped me and her off. i said bye to her and she said bye and sorry i guess she felt bad about it. she told me to text her when i get home i did and we texted for a few min. I was really tired and accidently fell asleep and i look at my phone "she said hope you got home safe and sorry :/" and after (cause i fell asleep) "Goodnight" i texted her this morning and she asked if i got sick and i said no why? she told me she got sick and threw up the night before and i replied with,"Whoa really? well it's a good thing you didn't kiss me then cause i could've gotten sick". she hasn't replied back but she usually doesn't text much anyway so i'm particualrly worried about it.

Now for the kissing part i new i messed up because there wasn't the right tension so it came off as sudden (and she told me it was sudden) and she told me i was her friend but, she always coming around me and want me going with her and doing stuff (basically she's dragging me around) and i've built so much kino that i have i'm always holding her and she doesn't mind it at all even after i tried to kiss her she was cool with it and we had little tickle fights. so i just think i messed a bit here and can recover. and advice?

You can totally recover. Could have gone back in for it again after ramping up the kino a second time so she'd be ready for it. I'm sure next time will go well, she just seemed startled by it.

You can definitely recover buddy, don't sweat this too much. Set up another meeting soon, either with friends if it makes her more comfortable or, preferably, just the two of you. If you're with friends, make sure you location bounce at least once as a time bridge and use some role-playing routines to get her out of her own head and into the moment (sounds like she's into you but she's over-thinking things). In terms of kino, two steps forward, one step backwards. If she's comfortable with you holding hands or holding her, then do that- qualify her- but take it away too. Hold her for a few minutes then push her off of you, but be serious about it.

Make her think something about the way the kino was going made it so you didn't want to continue anymore. And just shut up for a minute, push her off, or get up and change chairs- perform whatever your takeaway is and then get real quiet for a minute. She will feel like she's done something wrong and re-initiate the conversation and then the kino herself (or be a lot more receptive when you re-initiate kino). If she's comfortable with a level of kino, make her self-conscious about the possibility of losing it and she will give it a lot more value. When the holding kino is re-initiated, go into Style's evolution phase shift gambit (http://www.stylelife.com/challenge/2012 ... eShift.pdf). Never failed me yet when getting LMR for a kiss close.

-Maverick