Hey all, This is gonna be my very first post so it's gonna be long! So a quick bio about my self, I'm a college freshman who is new to the game, I'm not really shy I have accepted my strengths and weakness as a person. I like to be around people and pretty good with interacting with people. Girls don't really intimidate me until i want to hit on them, but as far talking to them as a person no matter if they're a 1 or 10 i'm not scared to talk to them unless i'm trying to get them. one of my college friend's introduced me to the game and pua. I've started watching alot of RSDfreetour and TlyerRSD and JulianRSD. So after researching a while I decided to put my knowledge into action, not going up to random people per say, but more situational circumstances like girls in class or girls who my friends are talking with positive responses.

So this my issue there is this girl who is recently join the same club as me, I tried using some the game I learned to get her attention not that I was attracted to her, but more so to see if i can. Again it was situational again she was talking to three guys who i somewhat new a table she was sitting at, and so i came in high energy, fun, and being able to entertain myself. I noticed quickly that this caught her attention of me though I was not reacting to her what so ever cause honestly I didn't care. Just saying this chick is a HB8 and i did the same kind of high energy the second day as well, and in response everytime i would look around and see her should would be staring straight at me sometimes she would look away and sometimes should just stay staring. I later became her last min. partner for a dance event since her partner dropped out, and we did great had fun with it even when I don't dance well. she later asked me if i was a virgin lol, but i told her no and that she was. She began to open up to me telling me about her ex and how he cheated on her (which left her insecure and it's very noticable) and started telling me she's been sad lately cause she thinking about him and how recently they broke and how he was her first boyfriend (though i don't know how long this was exactly though i think it was some where around a month or more).

So this is were the situation I got myself in. I began to make her invest but, i started to do it to unintentionaly as well and began noticing and forced myself to stop. I still did my own thing trying not to hover around her, and be same how i was before around the 1st or 2nd day i met her and how she was chasing me, but at some point i told her i was attracted to her (in a smooth way) then she asked me what i liked about her so i basically her told both the physical side and personality side she said thanks with a big smile and we hung out for a bit after, i think you would/could call that rapport though i'm still new so i don't know exactly. and after hanging out for a bit (no kissing or anything just chillen) we headed home and as we were going to seperate she said she wasn't ready for a relation ship and how she would like to be friends so she could focus on her. And the funny thing is it didn't phase me because I didn't hear or fell any serous tone to back it up really and i said "nope" in a happy,laughing, cheerful way with a smile. She laughed and said "oh my god" or something and was all like i'm serous and i was said yep with the same energy as before and she told me to text her.

This was just weds. and we have been texting since, and again we would still joke around with eachother and she gave me nicknames but sometimes she'll get sad and say she's not ready or how i found her at the wrong time, and how she couldn't sleep and stuff. And still unphased by it i try to tell her to go out and do stuff so she could feel better and what not. But she is still pushing the friendship though when i talk to her i can't really feel the serousness of being her friend and we tend to flirt a bit and push pull.

But i'm asking is what to do to make want to date rather give a bunch of reason why she can't i think it's the shit test but experts help would be great than

This is common and gets better if you put yourself out there and approach a lot.
You want to get good at this you have to approach randoms. Lots of them.
There is an abundance of girls. The only way you will know how to handle girls properly is to have experiences with many of them.
Could reply with 'why, was the sex not good enough?' Never let a good opportunity to introduce sex into your interactions with a target get away, but don't overdo it.
Good job man for real, you're good at this already.
Give it a shot. She reacted great to your rejection of being friends but then you kept stalling with texts etc. Just tell her "I have enough friends, next week, we'll go out." And just see how she responds. If she says NO then, great, you know you don't have to waste any more time with her and you can move on to other girls. Many of them are out there, so you have that to look forward to bro if this one doesn't pan out.

Thanks man this helped alot. But i just wanted to make clear that this chick is a virgin and that probably why her ex cheated on her. But other than she just insecure. i'll follow up on the last thing and if she says no then move on. but the reason i didn't open up sex is because 1) she's a virgin and to i'm not very experienced with sex not saying i'm a virgin but saying i've done 1 time haha. that's why it kinda odd for me to go through talking about stuff like that as if i know what i'm talking about.

Co-sign with Oceanx.

Worst case, she says no. But you attacked it, not contemplate in front of a computer screen. You'll feel much better, good or bad.

Like oceanx said, don't just focus on one girl. The time you focus on one girl is when you've experienced enough to distinguish what you want and what you don't. Then you just start flagging the crazies and ignoring the annoying, until you get one that sticks.

In the meantime, quantity over quality...the quality will only get better, and that is definitely worth looking forward to.