I guess i have this problem where i see myself as an overachiever. I like girls who realistically are out of my league. Perfect 10s with enormous social circles partying out all night, leaving the life. I'm more a keep to myself kind of guy, with few trusted friends and only lately have i been trying to expand to my circle.

Now i can settle for medium looking girls, that dont cause many problems and can make me feel safe and at ease with myself on a relationships. But no mater what, i keep aiming for these emotionally unavailable high maintenance chicks, that leave me broken and hopeless.

It seems that these girls are into bad boys, but what does that even mean on this day and age. It seems that a bad boy is not a jerk or an asshole jock anymore, so what is it, and how can i portray myself as one, preferably by keeping my values intact and dont lose myself in the process?

Note that i'm not a polite thank andyou're welcome type of guy that smiles nervously for no reason, but maybe I'm not a bad boy either. I'm not there yet.

A Bad Boy:

-Does whatever he wants without caring what others may think
-Is independent and can fetch for himself
-Manipulative into getting what he wants
-Does Bad Boy stuff
-Has nothing to lose
-Takes risks

These are some stuff on the top of my head that i can think of, but how can you take that and apply them into everyday situations?

Cause if so, a bad boy shouldn't attend boring meeting with family cause he sees them as boring and with nothing to gain. He would not sit with groups of people he doesnt like and sit through an array of small talk and be part of conversations he doesnt want to be a part of, cause he's independent. But if you dont depend on other people on social situations how can you be all by yourself and still get girls? How can you be manipulative, and still value honesty and respect because that's your belief system in life.

Dude, don't try to be someone you aren't, just learn to have fun where ever you are, with whoever you are, which is how I define being an alpha male or "bad boy."

In other words, you can't "try" to be a bad boy because that would mean you are living by someone else's rules, and trying to be someone you aren't goes against the very foundation of the bad boy mentality.

Try watching how Hank Moody behaves in the series Californication.

For instance, you say "a bad boy shouldn't attend boring meeting with family cause he sees them as boring and with nothing to gain." Well, Hank Moody would. He would have just as much fun as he would anywhere else, because he knows that it is ultimately his decision to have fun or be bored and his responsibility to make any environment fun. That is also why he is so attractive to women -- no matter how boring the situation is, Hank is always having fun and bringing everyone along for the ride.

You say "He would not sit with groups of people he doesn't like and sit through an array of small talk and be part of conversations he doesn't want to be a part of, cause he's independent." That's not the definition of an "independent" person, that's the definition of a boring person. If Hank Moody is part of a boring conversation he will change the subject, even if he just starts talking about something else right in the middle of it. If I am in a boring conversation I will try to notice something about someone that interests me and ask him or her about that. For instance, if it seems that a girl or even a guy in the group works out, I may tell him or her that and start talking about his training program or her workout routine. If I can't come up with anything, I may even say something like "Wow, you guys really know how to party. 'Lets get dressed in our best clothes, grab a few cocktails and talk about the recent tax reforms.' " Which always gets a laugh and identifies me as the one guy who will speak his mind, doesn't take things too seriously and knows how to have fun.

". . . if you don't depend on other people on social situations how can you be all by yourself and still get girls?" Well, you should NEVER depend upon anyone or anything to have fun or "get girls." An alpha male, a "bad boy" can go out with a group of people and still be himself, still retain his unique identity. An alpha male or bad boy can also go out alone and meet women as he goes, without depending upon a wingman, female friend or social circle to support him.

"How can you be manipulative, and still value honesty and respect because that's your belief system in life" Being a bad boy means being yourself and that is the exact opposite of manipulative or dishonest. A "nice guy" is dishonest and manipulative, not a bad boy. A nice guy tries to use favors of his money and time to force girls to feel guilty and have sex with him. A bad boy is open, honest and direct. His fashion, body language, eye contact and sometimes even his words say: "I like you, I want you and don't worry, I'm the most fun guy you'll ever meet. No matter how short lived, you will never forget or regret the time you spend with me."

In a nutshell, remember this: A BAD BOY ENJOYS EVERY MINUTE OF HIS LIFE BECAUSE HE CREATES HIS OWN REALITY

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