Ive been hanging with this HB 8.5 for awhile..gaming her and what not.And it was really working on her,i was making her work for my attention,getting her all over me.But now she has just seemed to call my game,and is using it on me!She seems to shut down when im around,and is using the cat string theory on me.Any Help?

So she took control, and you have to get it back. Time for a freeze out basically, you might need to ignore her for a few days. You need to get her operating on your time, and on your conditions again.

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Yeah I was thinking that ignoring her would be the best,becasue if i go right back into her,she will push me away.And could you explain a time freeze,ive never used that before.






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freeze her out. basically ignore her. take the attention away. it will make her qualify herself for your attention.

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Do you think i should go near her but block her off from me,and talk to friends around her so she wants my attention,or just completley stay away for a few days?

ok if you just ignore her and try to stay away it doesn't work. If she talk to you don't be mean or rude just act not very intristed. Don't think about it to much. Be friendly to other girls around you and just don't think about her. Don't call her. If she calls answer and say that you can't talk because your playing xbox360 or a game maybe what ever you could be doing. Don't be rude just don't make her feel like shes got you after the string.


first advice post so let others critique my info hope i told you how to do it all right.

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I somewhat agree here. Basically yes you are going to have to ignore her and just not pay her any attention. True, you don't need to be rude or condescending in any way, just be uninterested. If she calls or texts be busy, if you know its her, I would say something like, "I'm busy hanging with friends at the moment, I'll call you later." Please don't say XBox360 because that means you're alone and you don't have a life. No offense to XBox Players, I like it too but it hurts the social life.

Kind of like "Kasa" said you aren't taking the string away from the cat. You started out and you had her playing along, you'd move a little and she'd jump after you. Then something happened and she got your string and did it back. So like we said, take the string back by denying her the ability to control you, hence a freezeout for a short time. When you have the string back then invite her out on your terms and resume.

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jsmooth summed it up for you hope it helps. Thanks J

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Yes thanks to all who helped,and how do I spark up the convo after I freeze her out?

You really shouldn't need to. If you are successful in freezing her out and if your freeze is combined with some jealousy, she will be the one to start up the conversation. Just make sure you dont totally ignore her. She needs to be around, but she also needs to know that she is no longer the center of you attention. That will be her motivation.

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