| 1. Social problems. Every time I'm talking to someone, not just a girl I'm picking up, but just about anyone I'm talking to, I would find myself having nothing to reply to but silence. Don't get it wrong. It's not like I don't know what to say. It's like I don't feel like saying anything at all because there's either no necessity or no point to say anything back. And that's where the conversation goes dry. I'm not anxious at such point, I'm just wishing that the other person could come up with something different and worthy to go on talking about. Usually that doesn't happen. But sometimes when the girls is pretty hot, I feel like I just want to shag her. I don't want to talk to her at all. But I want to shag her.
To make this more understandable, let me give you an example. I'm a guy with long "beautiful" hair and long nails. I'm talking about nails so long that the white part is actually longer than the pink part. But I spend time taking care of them, and they look very good. People I'm newly introduced to always talk about those things, including the girls. They would always are the same question "Are these your nails?" (What kinda stupid question is that?!) I always reply with a British humour "Well, I don't suppose it's yours." But those American girls probably never gets it. They would always ask how I take care of them, which I don't really know even when I want to seriously answer it. They would ask me why I keep them so long, I said "So that I can do something like this" and scratch their skin lightly with those nails. They LOVE it. Every single last one of them love it. But still, every time I heard those questions, I want to throw up. And I just don't wanna talk. I wish I could just mesmerize them with that scratching and scratch their nickers off so that I can shag them and be done.
This is probably some problem with my own mentality. But anyways, I got those "weird out" moments all the time that I can't really have a normal conversation with normal people. I just find it way too awkward. What I need is some advise about how to steer my way out of these situations and just cut the crap and get what I want.
2. Texting game. I don't text girls a lot. But when I do, it usually takes them so long before they reply that you just can't flirt like that. I mean, I don't send boring texts like how's your day. I don't really want to go too dirty either. So sometimes I go like "If you can't text me back in 5 min just ignore this." Yet they still do after 2 hours. They reply, and not something like "fuck off" but something concrete. Either the mobile network is REALLY slow, or they just can't read time.
And sometimes, it's so messed up that I just don't wanna text them. It's like impossible for me to build any connection with her when we're not physically together. Which sometimes bring me to doubt whether we do when we are f2f. I grew up in a lot of different places and having no long time friends and I always have some problem opening up and developing deep connections with people. So even though I can get the game going all the time, I always feel like this bond is superficial and not deep enough. You can view it as "I want to build connections and rapport but don't exactly know how." So I kinda need some advice on that as well.
Basically, the problems I got here is more about general socializing than picking up. In some ways, I feel like I'm a pretty weird person myself with a pretty weird mentality. I'm falling for the nice guy downfall nor the awkward needy shaky bit. But it does look like I have problem dealing with people and make close friends. Those things you learn as you grow up amongst a bunch of friends you know. Any advise about that would be helpful.
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