I can't seem to find an equal balance between the two because I don't properly understand the concept. For example what is an appropriate push? What is an appropriate pull? And most importantly, how can I work it into conversations?

"2 steps forward, one step back"?

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Keep up with the conversation, and listen to her attentively. Then after about 10-15 min, take your eyes off of her, and start looking around. Start talking less, and maybe move away. She will start wondering why that is going on, and initiate more contact with you, trying harder. Then you respond with more attention, then do the same, so she thinks you are losing interest, and she needs to try harder to get your attention.

I think this whole concept is slightly flawed. It shouldn't be used much in the beginning, rather it's a tool for conditioning. It's really simple to understand. When she does something you like - you "pull", i.e. reward her for the good behavior. When she does something you don't like (and she will, trust me) - you "push", i.e. punish her so she doesn't do it again. It's like dog training really.

I personally think that it's enough to just push in response to the genuinely wrong behavior on her part. When she's testing you by acting like a crazy bitch - that's a really good time to push. I find that pushing randomly, without provocation, is excessive. But u can have fun with it if you want.

I don't recommend doing it early at all. More likely than not you will screw up a perfectly good girl. U need to get her invested in you before you can push her. Before that she doesn't care all that much. You're just some random guy and she can pass. Build comfort first, then you can manipulate her.