I have this wierd issue where It's difficult for me to get into the comfort zone where we become "friends." And the way it happens makes me believe I have this asshole aura about me. They seem very standoffish immediately towards me. Idk if its my body language or whatever. I'm able to open up girls with words and do a few routines to build a bit of attraction. My repitiore is not too advanced now though.

To give you an idea of what I mean, I have a friend who is a master at doing this. He's not attractive but he's just got this vibe about him that makes him this teddy bear friend to girls and they open up to him as if they were friends. I try to pick up on words and body language but I just dont get it. I had met a girl in a bar who I had a day two with at the same bar. I had her to myself for most of the night and we had regular conversation. I was being funny and just being myself. But I was blown away at how when he met up with us how he was able to get into this comfort stage with her quickly. She seemed a little more animated and interested. Though the conversation topics weren't anything extroadinary, she seemed to just perk up and get comfortable. She appeared to now be a friend. He has a gf though and he mentioned this to her. I ended up being the one who made out with her. I have been texting her. We had a day 3 at a bar. I invited her and we ended up making out again.

But I can't feel like I'm in that comfort friend stage. This is just one case. It happens when I meet other girls or acquiantances. They don't seem to get animated about things I talk about. I'm intelligent and knowledgable in loads of subjects. Idk what to do to get to that zone where the girls open up and seem excited to see you whenever you guys bump into each other.

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You need to just display complete and unfiltered authenticity. If someone can sense that you speak whats on your mind; that you are completely congruent with your emotions then they'll become much more comfortable with you. Because if you were a rapist say, then you probably would just blurt out something like "Oh by the way, I'm going to rape you later tonight".

Another point could be the vibe that you're displaying. Just try to have fun and the party vibe will emanate from you. All people are drawn towards a fun vibe because they seek that fun. They're like leeches that want to suck up some of that fun that you're putting out.

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I agree with star, but I still have a question about your talking points

You say that you are knowledgeable and intelligent in loads of subjects. Are these subjects that girls care about (i.e. stupid shit) or are they things that no one really cares about (how to disassemble a motherboard/ how to properly file a W2)?


-Knight

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I know stuff about everything. I'm like a jeopardy machine. I love history and science. I can talk about nearly anything except garbage like gossip. I love cars space movies beer and almost anything. Most girls can't speak on interesting subjects. They get bored.

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