Back in 2012 I was all about direct game. I was bold and not afraid to do things like hold eye contact until the girl looks away, kino, and ask girls out. Didn't work great but it got me a girlfriend and I'm thankfully no longer a virgin. However after we broke up back in November, I've noticed that my bold aggressive style went maybe a little too bold. Girls just got creeped out and I'd never be able to see them again even if I get their facebook/number. So a sticking point there would be my inability to recognize when I'm going over the edge and being too direct when the girl isn't interested.

This year, I've been overcompensating by being too nice and timid. Basically reverted back to an AFC. I know the nice guy routine is only gonna get me female friends and no pussy but I'm too scared to be bold again. It's as if every time I decide to be bold, my brain reminds me of all those times I creeped out girls and I end up pussying out.

For example, I'd be in an exercise studio in my gym working my abs. I'd ask the girl next to me about her workout as an opener, then I'd freeze and the conversation doesn't go anywhere. I'd be talking to some girl playing volleyball or whatever and get too scared to ask her out, even if the conversation is going well. I'd make an excuse like "I'll do it next time". But there is no next time cause I never see her again. I'd be talking to another girl playing volleyball, and I'd be too afraid to lightly touch her arm at a high point in the conversation. I can go on about many more similar scenarios where I pussied out that piss me off when I reflect upon them.

Basically I know I'm being results-oriented when I shouldn't be, but it's fucking with me in a way I don't know how to fix. How would you guys fix this?

You're problem isn't "I ask girls out and they say no". Your problem is "I don't ask girls out."

The only way for you to fix that is simply by doing it. If you are fat and you don't go to the gym, you can't ask personal trainers "How can I make myself go to the gym?" They'll just tell you to go.

What you need to do is have this mantra going inside your head at all times: "Find a girl and ask her out. Find a girl and ask her out." Repeat that over and over again so that you can't even hear the other thoughts inside your head which are trying to get you to bitch out.

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