Hi everyone...
First of all, I want to say sorry in advantage, because I will be making grammar mistakes and that kind of stuff, english isn't my language. But i speak solid.
So here's the thing. I'm 17, and i know i should be visiting other sites for HS pickup and simillar, but i want to take giant step and take this further. There are many topics like this, but i think every story has it's own thing thats going on... so I even can't believe that i'm on this forum and writing this, but... let's skip to the main thing.
I'm not AFC, actually far from that. It's probbably because of my physics (not bragging, just to point that out). But thats one of my problems because even if im aware of that, i simply cant believe in that, if you know what I mean. I had so many situations where girls approached me and told me that i was beautifull, perfect... and everything else. But still i have self-confidence issue. I want to pick up THEM! I usually go out with 1 or 2 friends with intention to sarge (i hope i said it right) but i need about an hour to man up and approach them, and while im doing that its like im shivering, my stomak hurts... But i dont know why, here is the main ironical thing here: They all think (i would like to be sure in that all the time also) that i am beautifull (i don't know if that sounds weird on english, but there is no other translation) and i know that i have the GAME. Far from the PUA, but i have it for sure. I usually tell my friends what to say when they approach and succes rate is really big. Friends who don't go out sarging with me, they all think that i am huuuge womanizer. I wish that too:)
That self-confidence improvement will help me in many other things, like sports, whole social life and especially - girls. Why i can't simply think: what the fu*k, why should i be afraid when i can easily turn around and i will probbably never see her again. But im afraid of all: my friends, people around who will stare at me in the mall, afraid of talk even if i know that i know what i should say to make her in the mood... I approached random girls maybe 3 times, and all i did was saying funny thing and walk away. Maybe 2 times i joined my friend after he approached and i felt that at least one girl was already litteraly into me.

I want to be "free", i want to be in - i do not give a f*cK what others think or say mood, i want to be really what they all think i am - young PUA!
Thanx for help, and i'm sorry if i posted topic that already existed, but i cant find exact same situation, and even now... you see, im a bit scared that someone from the forum will "yell" at me for doing that.
Thank you all:)

I see the problems here:

1: You're outcome dependant. When you go out, your goal is to GET the girl, in every situation. You must realise this is impossible, not even the best PUA in the world can GET EVERY woman he speaks to. There will always be girls that will never be interested in you.

2: What you say doesn't matter. I once picked a girl up with the most stupidest line ever such as, that other guy looks cute or something. Random gay opener, still got the girl. It's about the intention. If she feels that you desire her, she might be attracted.

3: Accept rejection. Accept the fact that some girls are not interested (see #1) and that it's totally human to be turned down by some people.

4: Love yourself. Love how you look, love how you are and change the habits that make you less attractive. This can be done by writing down the points, the patterns why you fail during approaches. Notice them and make changes.

Good luck!

Wallie

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