Hi all,

Newbie (ish) from the UK here. Girl started talking to me on hotornot.com. Probably an 8 I guess though only 20 so 6 years younger than me. She gave me her number and we've been Texting since. We've also arranged to meet for a date on Thursday. We've said we're gonna go grab some mojitos although no plans as to where yet.

So the texting has been going pretty well. She's been "playing my game" (I don't know the lingo yet) most of the time. Just text her on christmas morning:

Me: Merry Xmas Miss V. What did santa bring you?

Her: longish text about presents, drinknig sherry and gong for a walk with family. How's yours going?

Me: Great so far. Nobody's here. (not demonstrating HV I now realise). Although I'm a little annoyed with you. (maybe shouldn't have used "annoyed"?)

- So my plan was to lay this and then her say "why? How come? etc." and then I would say: "because I think you broke into my dreams last night", then try and sexual escalate. Unfortunately she replied:

Her: Nobody's there? How come? (i.e. she's being ambiguous as to what she's asking about, whether it's the nobody there or the annoyed bit.)

WHAT DO I DO?????

I guess this is some kind of Sh1t Test. How do I recover or get back onto the topic of my dream. HELP! ASAP! PLEASE! HUGE THANKS TO ANYONE WHO CAN HELP!

Thanks
Kenada

I know this is n't explicitly a sticking point, but it's happened to me in many different forms over time. In which case I guess I'm trying to find an example of how to approach these situations? What's the mental approach? She definitely hasn't blown me off, but the HV is starting to swing in her favour....

I've been doing this a long time and my advice is this: Don't worry, let it go. It's already a good sign she's texting. But I think her "how come" reply does refere to your "annoyed" comment. You could try replying "I'm annoyed at you for entering my dream...etc" but if I'm honest I don't think that would be appropriate.

It's hard to give advice relating to specific text messaging because it can be so ambiguous. My advice to you would be to avoid texting altogether, instead use it to only arrange dates and exchange a few friendly messages. I would also advise against trying to escalate by text message before you've even met her. This might come accross as contrived and creepy.

The best thing to do would be to go on the date with her and if you like her begin flirting etc. Escalation is best done in person where you can use body-language, proximity, kino, voice, subtle signals, inuendo and eye-contact to create sexual tension.

Thanks for the advice man. What you say has obviously got some sense, however I've been reading some stuff on text closing where you can seduce via text without even really meeting someone. See the link:

http://www.apickupaday.com/text-game-se ... scalation/

I know this girl in australia that's coming over february. We met in Thailand, missed our chance two years ago. But then I fb'ed her and said some pussy shit but it worked. She knows I want her, and she wants me (I think). Just been working her on facebook with the same 'routine'. Told her I dreamt about her and got some positive feedback. Will hopefully make it explicit tomorrow. My point is, I want to go on this text girl date with the expectation of going straight into flirt, and talking dirty, hopefully with K or F close. It's totally doable. Read the article, it can so happen - just have to get her straight onto thinking about sex with me, so that when we meet I could almost meet her at mine and F without a word exchanged.

Thoughts

(women can be more comfortable being sexual in a text right?)