Im not sure if what you describe yourself is true about that aura.
just take things more lightly, game for fun and make ppl happy, your ex has no control over you anymore its your mind taking control of your mind in a negative way which YOU can control because its your mind.
solve your inner game first and come back with that 100% happy i love life attitude and then compliment girls and make them feel special, GIVE GIVE GIVE GIVE joy and hapiness then itll propell you UP UP UP and everything gets easier and funner from there
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