As far back as I could remember (probably 5th grade and up), I've met amazing people in my life, both guys and girls alike. I've been invited to their parties and got chances to get out of the house every now and then. Then x years later, the friends that I've made when I was a kid disappear from my life, and this depressing cycle continues to perpetuate my social life, even going through high school. I started my first year in college in September, and I want to break this annoying cycle!!

I meet people once, only to lose touch with them later. I feel like this is my ultimate SP since I cannot maintain or keep a healthy social circle. I don't get invited to parties or events, or get invited simply just to chill. Making friends is tough, but keeping them is even tougher!

Also, when I meet a person for the first time, I put on this "wow, this guy is so chill!" vibe, and it works naturally (especially after opening a set and stacking routines). Then, after seeing the same person multiple times, that "wow, this guy is so chill!" vibe starts to lose its authenticity, and I later become "just this guy", a guy who used to be funny and talkative only to transform into this quiet, socially awkward chump. That's also another SP that I have: maintaining that vibe everyone loves and wants to keep feeling.

I go to the gym and have some interesting hobbies, but those things will only get me so far until I start to regress into my AFC-self. This is why I don't go for #-closes yet, because I need to learn how to keep my vibe alive for day 2's.

So how can I maintain friendships without it fading to nothingness? And how can I keep shining that "Flame" (or vibe) everyone wants to keep feeling?

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"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is." - Ryan Gosling

When people tell you: "This guy is so chill" it is because you live in America and this is social smalltalk that people use to cement their short term relationships.

I could write about this phenomenon of social disintegration for hours, but instead I will say that you need to build true loyalty, brotherhood. And it is not easy to find persons that you can do this with, especially since we live in a culture infested by empty chitchat and feelgood rhetoric.

You know what man take it from me and I truly probably am one of the best to give you advice here as I have tons of life long friends. They are all extremely important to me and I genuinely value their friendship. You know what I think the difference is and why I'm able to retain so many great friends. Because I'm real in every way. They all know I would go to the ends of the earth with them if they needed me to. I don't feed them bullshit, I listen, I genuinely care about them as friends. Be real, be genuine. It's really simple as that.

One more thing to add. You need to be forgiving as well and realize your friends will at times let you down. Don't hold a grudge when it happens.

Why don't you read dale Carnegies - how to win friends and influence people ? One of the best selling books of all times with the concepts making alot of sence.