Whenever I meet a (new) girl, there is always a nagging voice behind my head going on saying that break the Touch Barrier.

Breaking the Touch Barrier has gained a lot of importance as I read more and more about getting good with girls in general that I become nervous even when its time for a handshake and she feels this nervousness which gives rise to the creepiness and weirdness that I think you all must have been through. All the insecurity and in-confidence comes through and it blows off the interaction.

1. So, how do you break the Touch Barrier?

2. What mindset do you take to the interaction whenever you are meeting a new girl, especially about the touch part?

3. How do you physically escalate the touch? Like from a handshake, where do you go from there?

4. Recently I went to a IT Company (I thought it was a teaching institute) for 6 months Industrial Training (Something we have in India equivalent to Internship). There were two counselors (both with huge tits). Now keeping in mind that India prohibits (doesn't actually, but that's what we've been made to experience (not even explicitly told (Don't touch a girl - Nope, never heard it from any parent)) social touching, in a time where the gender difference in India is diluting, would it have been normal for me to extend my hand for them (with a mindset that they are hot chicks (Is this what I should have before talking to them about an Internship?)) to shake?

5. Do I really need to think this much (Like the above Point 4) before shaking a girls hand? If no, why do I think so much?

place your hand on a girl
have to touch a girl to see if she likes you, to ''test compliance'' if she likes you, she will be fine with you touching her, she wants you to do it, it makes her feel good/sexy, if she doesn't like it, then you can just find another girl and just saved yourself a bunch of time on a girl who is not interested in sleeping with you

touching also allows you to save face, a girl doesn't have to verbalize a fuck off in front of her friends, or a SORRY I DON'T LIKE YOU, for you to see her being non-receptive to touch, when you see it, you can just be more social, less sexual, and move on to a different girl who accepts your advances
no but you can make things more comfortable and natural if you do so, you can just go straight for a kiss without touching a girl at all, even straight to sex (albeit the girl has to get wet somehow, this is sort of rare without foreplay)

it's more of a test to see how she reacts and how much she likes you / is comfortable with you

a girl who is high on comfort/interest, will touch you back and be receptive to touch, a girl who isn't comfortable/interested will seem uncomfortable in a noticeable way, if it isn't noticeable how she is reacting just crank it up a notch, eventually you will be making out or she will do something to stop you
good luck having sex with a girl who you can't touch, going to need one epic verbal game to turn a girl on enough for her to go straight to bed with you without any tension being created through foreplay/physical rapport

you have to get used to the idea that girls like sex, you are not ''getting'' anything from them, they want to fuck guys just as bad as you want to fuck them, maybe they don't specifically find you attractive, but some will, and some won't, you have to figure out which it is, and when you find ones that do, escalation is a very mutual thing, she will escalate with you, it is not something you are trying to sneak in with her, she is aware and reciprocates the escalation, she allows you to touch, she touches back, she wants to make out with you, etc. etc., it's not some sneaky I do ZYX move and now kissing has been unlocked and she has no chance to reject me... NO, a girl can want to kiss you before you even open your mouth to talk to her or touch her, touching her in a more polite manner and escalating, just allows you to guage how receptive to that idea she is for yourself, if she is comfortable with this, is she comfortable with that? and you increase the amount of compliance it takes from her over and over, eventually you can see, she's ok with me holding her hand, ok with me touching her socially on the arms/legs/back, she is cool with giving me a kiss on the cheek, if I try to make out with her, it looks like she is going to want that

most likely lack of experience, just need to do things you are uncomfortable with doing more so that they become more routed in habit and comfortable, it's not a big deal to touch someone, if they don't like it, it should be somewhat blatently obvious, and if it is not and you raise the compliance, it soon will be, don't know too many people that would be comfortable getting fucked if they didn't want to be, just to ''not offend''

I have a rule, that I've followed ever since 6th or 7th grade I'm in college now and it still does wonders.

I don't like handshakes...I mean wtf feeling is that going to give a girl?
So I tell them that..

When you meet a girl, do whatever you usually do. When you leave, if you haven't gotten kino to start out...

"K we'll see eachother later WE have something to take care of..." take your hand out as if you are going to handshake, and when she goes for it

"AH I was going to forget again...I think when you're giving someone a handshake it's more "business" than what comes with friendship, the excitement and wonderful experience...I don't do handshakes, but (go for a hug) a hug I think works wonders."

That's it...That last paragraph I learned in 6th or 7th grade..and it stuck...and it works... When you hug btw, your hands shouldn't be higher on their body but lower, closer to the waist...feel free to hold on a second and press your chest against hers so she feels your beating heart and warmth. Just naturally, casually...NEVER take a handshake from a girl, use a similar line above and well...

1. Once you can hug her.
2. Your chest on hers.
3. Your warmth and beating heart.
4. Your hands behind her but above her ass, but not on it, (kind of where her belly button is in line with but behind her(if this makes sense))

Touch barriers are gone! Non-existent, finito!

NOW...what I said I have done in an American Culture, (USA)...not sure what the rules are in other areas...Hope this helps...just go for a dam good hug...

If it sucks tell her, and teach her...she'll be on you, you'll be directing where her hands should be, how close to your body she should be, where her hands should go, tell her where they should go for acquaintances, and tell her if it's a "connection with a guy" tell her her hands should be somewhere else...depending on how it goes, maybe you can have her leave them on your ass, if you are playful or just above it.


I LOVE THIS STUFF. It's SOO EASY to play...and they'll love you during your first interaction. Use your head a bit and change it around if it's a group of girls of course..

What I've done is taught my target how to hug, and had her 2 other friends help themselves to eachother (both females)... You can go full out "teaching how to hug" mindset.

Grab the other 2 girls, and touch their waist and move them closer to eachother. Grab their hands put them on eachothers waist (tell them to imagine their partner is their perfect mate..playfully) or move them to eachothers sides, or a hand on ones neck and the other girl on the others ass.

The first interaction is the one that leaves an impression. If you are secure enough to touch 3 girls the way you'll be touching them during these 10 minutes you've got yourself a potential 4 SUM.

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There are soo many things you can do...touch barriers don't exist...DO YOU SEE a line that says DO NOT TOUCH? ...NOPE? Well then it doesn't exist! Come on dude, use your head a bit!

I think this hugging routine thing I have developed is GOLD. I MEAN IT WORKS SO DAM WELL I wondering as to whether or not I should even post this.

Have fun! Hope this helps somehow.