I am probably different than a lot of guys on this site in that I want to become a proficient PUA just to ensure that when "the one" comes along I can win her over and marry her. Using the language of Robert Greene, I would be a natural and simultaneously a devout anti-seducer (obviously would take a long time to explain this).

i am 41 and the last three women i have hooked up with have all been at least 15 years younger. however, no relationship has lasted longer than a month. thanks to the community i now understand a little of what i have been doing wrong. first is a lack of desire to enter her world. with one gal who was 21 I drank with her friends until 3 am two nights in a row and let her know that i was done doing that and she would have to "live in my world" and not the other way around.

problem is my world just aint that damn interesting or enchanting. i am low in status and generally unhappy with my career (save that for another post). basically, it seems like my challenge is "to isolate the target" (from Robert Greene again) and essentially make my world into one of constant play and lightness (make sure my impishness is always center stage) so that her social world and the real world are totally lacking in joy. difficult shit.

i dunno. right now i am totally enamored with an HB9 who is 23 and am fairly confident i will draw her in. then what? too much work to expect love? for whatever reason it is the young woman who are most strongly drawn to me. gotta come up with a gameplan to keep one by my side. welcome to any suggestions or insights

I am having difficulty finding the sticking point, could be more clear where the trouble lies?

extending the seduction i suppose