I recently realized that while my verbal social skills are way overpar, I rarely make eye contact. In fact, this actually makes me nervous. I must come off really shifty, to everyone not just girls.

Any tips, mnemonics, rubber band around the wrist ways to know to look up? Can I anchor that?

I can only say to you what i say to me (a shy guy) everyday...

if i keep looking what can happen? something bad and irreperable? for example if i keep looking to a big muscle man with killer tatoo , maybe i'm gonna die :D

but to i girl? probably she's going to look down.. and if not BOOM! :twisted:

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Ehi something free and useful as a funny opening.. How I make her drunk..an android-app to try!!

www.howimakeyoudrunk.com

This is important. You need to make eye contact in the first 3 seconds. Hold it don't look anywhere but deep in her eyes. Hears a trick line up your right eye with her right eye. Just like you are shacking hand. Have her break first. Don't say an finger word. Untilled she backs down. Dominate her cuz that is what she is doing. If you break first she is the alpha. She holds the cards she knows your weak. Practice with people. Its a learned skill. Hears an odd thing I do. I'm just a stockboy at a target. I stare a babies. Not hot girls but babies in the cart. They are fucking masters of the staredown. They have no fear an no social understanding of what they are doing. I know its creapy but If you dominate a 2 year old then hot girls are a price of cake. Also untilled it becomes 2nd nature realised that your only goal is to keep a gaze on the girls eye. Untilled it ain't no thang. I wrote this on my phone so any typos its due to me at the gym.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

try practicing with a friend, have staring contests or something silly. When you feel comfortable doing this, why not try to practice using your eye contact holding to induce IOI's and then make a game of it, see how many you can get in an hour.
After this you'll see that you can hold eye contact with just about anyone.

hope this helps


Carl

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"Man is not made for defeat. A man can be destroyed but not defeated." -Ernest Hemingway

Best thing I can suggest is to consciously look at someone in their eyes as you are talking. Practice this at every opportunity you can get, be it the cashier at a store, friends or whatever, just be non-threatening with the rest of your body.

It will take time for you to break old habits, so just practice as much as you can.

There's a great topic about body language here: alpha-body-language-video-series-vt1394 ... highlight=
(I recommend you watch the full series as it's very informative but, Episode 3 and Episode 9 are of particular use to you)
*credit goes to poeticlyskuac*

When people talk they tend to direct their eyes away occasionally from the person they are actually talking to, but ensure you try maintain eye contact when they are responding to you as this sub communicates interest in what the other person is saying.

Best way to describe this, without coming across as just a blank stare, is to focus on just one of their eyes and alternate the gaze to the other eye every few seconds.

Practice with a friend, as you'll not be able to practice in a mirror, another great thing to try is use a webcam, the lag creates enough of a time lapse to notice your reactions - You'll see the eye movement is very subtle but noticeable.

Hope this helps

A good way to practice this is by always asking yourself what eye colour the woman has while in conversation. And do not just limit it to brown or blue, there's many different shades of these colours. By doing this you will automatically look into their eyes more.