| TL;DR at bottom, more detailed explanation below
ok, first off, the number
forget about ''getting the number'', it's not some prize, it means litterally nothing to get a girls phone number, the girl and the connection you make with her #1, getting that prize when you walk away is not your goal, it should be irrelivant, just simply making a good impression and being able to further the interaction in the only goal, the number is simply a primary way on doing that when you have to part ways,
so, what is a solution to this?, don't focus on just being stuck in a mind frame of, I have to do or say XYZ or fill ZYZ amount of time then get my prize, this is some needy style thinking, step away from this, no thinking about the future and what will happen, no worrying about what has happened in the past, stay completely in the current moment and descide from each passing moment what you want from the present moment, how do you want to express yourself?, how can you improve your current situation from moment to moment, now when you can remain present without a focus on what is to come, you will find it easier to form that connection and have a more solid consitant interaction
after being able to make your impressions more solid, then the focus becomes what sort of mechanic will be effective to brigde my interaction so that it continues and I can make this connection even stronger and lead this towards sex, well after being de-tached from an interaction, you can think, but you want to not overthink things or become to focused on a single interaction, naturally progression from moment to moment, neither forcing anything, but leading as you want, so naturally one of the easiest ways to progress this interaction, is to state that is your intent, let a girl know you find her interesting and would like to see her again to continue forming a connection (stated in your own genuine words expressed through your own frame congruently), if you have made a solid enough impression/connection, then the girl will be very excited at the idea, and the phone number comes simply as a result (how else will she be able to stay in contact with you so that you guys can work out the logistics?)
TL;DR
ask her on a date instead of just for the number, if she complys or not depends on how bad you suck
GOOD LUCK
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