| Whats up guys, this is an IMPORTANT post i decided to write on a inner game topic.
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NEVER Change Your Mind Just To Please A Women
So today i want to touch on a topic that took me a while to realize. I made this mistake SO many times in my AFC days. Always giving in to what a girl i was with wanted or suggest, and sometimes even letting her change my perspective of beliefs. This is okay in the right circumstances, but you should NEVER betray your own core knowledge or intuition JUST to please a women or go along with her.
As time goes on the relationship will be weakened, and eventually she(or you both) will grow to resent each other. Inauthenticity will eventually plague the relationship, and burden your capacity for free action.
Always Listen To A Women, But Follow Your Wisdom
Im not saying dont listen to your women because you should always listen to people in general. What i am saying is that if you chose to go with a womens decision even though you know deep at heart that another decision is wiser, if you chose to go with the womens suggestion this is saying "I dont trust my own wisdom". You are steady weakening yourself subconsciously. You are also weakening your womens trust. Ask yourself, should someone else trust my wisdom, even though i dont? Well the logical answer is NO. And she wont.
Everyone will feel your inauthenticity or fakeness the more and more you try to please a women. They will sense false smiles, and false happiness you feel by trying to please someone other than yourself. You will become inwardly divided. How can people trust you if you yourself dont trust your own intent?
Listen To Your Women And Take What She Says Into Account
But make your own best decision. You are acting in accordance with your beliefs and intuition(or core). Here is the attitude to have. "My deepest wisdom and intuition is leading me, if i am wrong i will learn from it, and my wisdom will grow stronger and wiser." This is the attitude you should have when deciding whether to approach that beautiful girl you see walking pass. Also in other areas of your life such as business, and personal decisions. We should always be steadily improving. This confidence is what encourages others to trust you. This is the confidence alpha males, and leaders all around us have. Even though you may be wrong, your willing to find out, and thats the step most people won't take. Be open to listen to others, but in the end take responsibility.
Giving Up On Your Own Decision
If you give up on your own decision to follow your womens, then you will blame her for being wrong if she is wrong and wish you had followed your gut. You will feel disempowered if she is right, having denied your self opportunity to act from your core and grow from mistakes. Also you want to be willing to change your feelings basked on whatever your women might tell you of express through her words or body language, then make your own decision. What ever happens when making your own decision and following your intuition and wisdom, you may be wrong, but whatever happens, it is your best shot, and your capacity and wisdom will have strengthen for the future.
As you probably noticed this ties a lot into inner game. Giving it your best shot when approaching a beautiful female you see, and even if it goes wrong, you will have learned and grow from the experience, and will become stronger for future. This will ultimately lead to being rejection proof. My definition of rejection proof is being able to be rejected without taking a hit at your core or confidence no matter what happens. You know who you are, and happy with that, and anyone else you meet should be also. If they are not then they are not meant to be in your life. Now im not saying to be a arrogant jerk and not willing to improve. Always be willing to improve but don't be willing to improve for validation purposes. Improve for yourself and to become a better more attractive person.
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