Hey guys,

We all know one-itis is when you are so hooked on a particular girl that you are oblivious to or passing on others.

But what is it called when you are hooked on a girl but still date [many] others, get the job done (if you know what I mean), yet still have that special girl in the back of your mind, feeling that none of those others have made you feel the way she makes you feel?

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obsession? haha.

Does she also like you? Have you "gotten the job done" with her as well?

Well the question was semi-hypothetical but there was a girl in mind when I asked it.
It's a long story but the Cole's notes go like this:

We met years ago through a mutual close friend, there was an instant spark but didn't see each other for a couple years after that.
Fast forward, we meet again and I feel attraction but she has a boyfriend with her. I am very shy at this point in my life so I don't pursue.
Fat forward again, we get to know each other and start hanging out with our mutual friend, just the three of us. Then things progress and I develop very strong feelings for her. She sends out signals, initiates touch, etc. Time goes by and we begin hanging out (just the two of us), often alone in my apartment. I begin seeing someone else and lose contact with this girl, though she is still in the back of my mind. That relationship ends and I reconnect with this special girl.
We spend time alone in my apartment together again, and she jokes we're married, even though she's made it quite clear that she's going to marry her boyfriend (the same boyfriend) one day. (Side note: She confessed one day that she doesn't really have much confidence in this future husband being husband material. See, he's kind of a loser. He can't keep a job, he was sleeping on his sister's floor at one point.)
A couple months ago I decided that I can't see her anymore because she's going to marry him (though there's no ring on her finger) and I can't invest all my time in one girl who I will never be with. She texts to say she misses me (With the occasional 'love you' in there) but I just say things that are noncommittal.

I think about her all the time but stick to my decision that I can't see her anymore, for the greater good. But yet as I'm out in the field looking for girls all the time she is always there on my mind.