After tons of reading, gaming, some relationships and getting overall a good amount of in-field and reading experience I am still working on myself to get better. However finding books that still offer value to me, in the means of pick-up was a difficult thing.

I was really interested in NLP however. Not because of the sneaky uses, but because overall what it is really about is to be successful in general, which can't hurt right?

So as I got Introducing NLP in my hand and started reading it, I arrived at the basics of rapport building part. And I was stunned how I suddenly found probably my weakest point of game just at that moment.

When I interact with girls, both conciously, and unconciously I have a very alpha stance, taking up a lots of space, because I know that this builds attraction. However I just realised that when I'm into the comfort stage, unless I really connect with her naturally and I change my stance unconciously, I stay in this stance. I overlooked the fact how body language plays an important role in building rapport. I don't know how many of you guys might think about it when you read this, but I don't think it's an easy flow to find at all. I mean... who the hell would think that his weakest point is his body language in the comfort stage?

So just to briefly summerize it, you need to mimic, or match your body language with the girl's. I've been practising it for a few days and it really works like a charm. I still need to work on it though... Any ideas on what to look for when I am practising this? I'm pretty sure I still miss subtle movements which can also be important(Just to avoid misunderstanding...No, I'm not trying to mimic every single movement of hers, I'm trying to match most of her unconcious moments of her body language)

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Thank you for your insight! It is actually completely clear. Without even studying NLP I somehow felt or knew that matching breathing would be a great thing. I had a gf who didn't like to cuddle with her boyfriends when sleeping(no small spoon-big spoon). So I told her it was not because of her, it was because her previous boyfriends hadn't done it well. I asked her to try it once and if she didn't like I wouldn't force. I was the big spoon and I held her gently and I started mimicking her breathing. Next morning she told me she had never felt so safe sleeping.

I thought about using NLP because I think of myself as a very good observer, and it is a very useful thing. I'm not planning on ruthlessly manipulating every single woman I want to bang with NLP because I'm not that kind of person. I want to use it to improve myself, to experiment(making sure I don't do harm of course), to help others, and to fasten clearing the flows of my game.

With NLP I can go really deep in myself too and find out what is limiting me and rule it out quickly and effectively. It's just a tool that helps me to be more successful and to get the maximum out of myself whenever I need it, which will be many times because I'm currently a med student, not even talking about later when people's lives can be up to my state, but I've got some serious and difficult exams ahead before I finally become a doctor. And NLP also helps me to learn more quickly and more effectively.

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