Recently ive become someone else. Simply and specifically I find it very hard to have a normal conversation with anyone (guy/girl) who isnt a good friend/relative. Ive always been like this to some degree but within the last couple months ive got alot worse. Its not like I'm nervous around people either, my brain just jams up from trying to think of something funny and spits out the first thing it thinks of (if anything at all-which can be weird or plain unfunny). I don't know what's triggered this or if it's hopefully a phase, and I do know thinking about it puts even more pressure on me now, but I'm 23 and really wanna change.
Unless I have something deeply in common with the person I can't just "talk" about anything. Alot of the time id admit it's from lack of trying, like at work I dont like the guys there (just not my type of people) and just don't want to socialize with them, so I end up talking very little during the day. This can affect my actual work as well.

So in regards to pickup, I don't wanna look like I'm bragging but I'm just stating this to show that I used to be capable- I have slept with 35 women, and many more that i havnt actually fucked. This is a number that came relatively naturally to me in the past, but it's been my lack of things to talk about/speech anxiety(?) that's put a stop to this lately. I still have 2 girls that I can see as fb's but even then that's maybe once a fortnight.

It's like I feel Insuperior when i don't pick up now and that must come off as desperate towards girls.

Point is, I feel like I've lost my mojo, in and out of the game, and I don't know why! There is nothing that I can think of that could be a catalyst for it. 

The thing that gets to me to is that I'm very well travelled, have an extreme job and have quite a few interesting Hobbies but yet I still have nothing to say for fear of sounding like a douche. 
I have no fear of actually approaching a girl (or even a guy for that matter) if I'm thinking straight and have something to talk about(which is 1 in a 100), but it's this  having nothing to say the majourity of the time that really hurts me. If I had verbal dhiorhea I feel i would be unstoppable. 
Another thing too is that I have a reputation as a player, which I guess has been putting even more pressure on me to perform, but then getting no results makes me feel like a failure.
Most of my friends are married or in a LTR, so this doesn't help me feel any better about the whole thing either.

Can anyone help me or shine some light on this topic?

I'm gonna post this elsewhere too, don't know which catagory it belongs in.

hey man, here are some thoughts for you

when around people that you want something from, you tend to try to logically figure out what is logically the best way to get that thing, this is motivated through a need, a drive to validate the ego

when you are sitting there thinking of the perfect thing to say, it is most likely because you want to see a certain reaction that leads to gaining approval, it would only logically make sense that having that approval, would get you your desired outcome

the problem is, being so focused on this outcome, and needing it, leads to this behavior, and there is no logical thing you can say to a girl that will get her to like you

rather then focus on, ''the perfect thing to say'' or what she wants to hear, just relax, and focus on how you feel, lower the bar with what is acceptable, allow yourself to be ok with what you say, know that you don't even have to say anything at all, if you are in a good mood, reguardless of what you say, she will start to be put in a good mood, women communicate is sub-text, the words matter very little, it is the sub-text behind them and the feelings they get as a result

stop worrying about the perfect thing to say, for a while just field test saying what ever is on your mind, even if it is the weirdest most retarded thing that has ever come to your mind, just say it, and believe in it, say it with certainty and remain congruent to your emotions, be aware of how you are feeling and how she is feeling, and make you goal to just spread a good vibe, rather then worrying about how it is spread, essencially for a while just vomit words at her with good feelings behind them

once you can comfortably do this, you can start just finding cool little social tricks and stuff and try to internalize them and pracise them, as long as you can maintain your frame and be more certain of what you are doing, she will see things from your perspective

if you don't quite understand what this means, it's sort of like, you can say the most retarded lame things, but as long as you truly believe they are absolutely awesome and it is the funniest thing that has ever left your mouth and you are sure of it, she will react to your frame and see it the same way

have you ever just been hanging out with your friends, cracking jokes that weren't even funny, but your buddies found you hillarious?, chances are you were just feeling great and felt like your jokes were awesome, and there was no worry or thought about if they would go over well or not, you just spit them out because it ammused you at the time and kept those feelings up in the sky, your buddy felt the feelings and reacted to them

GOOD LUCK