I have similiar background as you, my father was always silent, never talked about anything but sports, and my mother + sister pretty much raised me on their own to be a "nice guy"... who didn't get laid until 21 (with 3-4 pointers).
I would also recommend you to read "60 years of challenge" as sika and NikAFC wrote. What one has to learn is: What girls say they want (aka nice guy) and what they REALLY want are two totally separate things. Their theoretical thinking about guys and their instinctual attraction have no connection whatsoever. They want the caveman... they CRAVE the caveman.
Me and my wingman let the chicks we date do the dishes when they are at our home... We give them rules to follow or they are out... Openly tell them we date others... We totally dominate them in bed, calling them slut, whore, slapping their face (gently ofc, never hurt them)... And they LOVE it, they are always happy when being here, calls us during the weeks and want to meet again.
Ofc always make sure to take good care of them, look after their needs, reward them when they are nice and sweet by giving them love and joy, make sure you take them out to have fun etc... as long as you lead them (i.e. alpha).
My point is, don't be afraid of going caveman, it's actually what the women REALLY long for in contrary to what society feeds us. It will take some time to re-program yourself, let it do so, no problems. It's a great gift you are giving to yourself and to the women you'll bring home.
Good luck sir
