I've been seeing a girl for about 3 weeks now. It's a short time, but we've managed to become very close and open with one another. We are REALLY similar. She is pursuing me a lot. I am 33 and she is 22. She got out of a 6-year relationship about 3 months ago, packed up and moved to my city. She doesn't want a relationship now, which is totally understandable. She knows I am supportive of that and I also don't see any reason why we should be boyfriend and girlfriend. She knows I'm dating and possibly fucking others and I know she is doing the same. No problem, no jealousy from either side. But here's the problem:

Last night we were at a party and as I was about to leave I told her I was going to kiss her. Bad move, I know. I felt silly for not just doing it. But the point is she rejected that idea. She didn't want to kiss me at the party because she wants to keep her options open. This is not the first time this kind of thing happens to me and I really don't like it. I told her it was bullshit and that I felt disrespected. We couldn't avoid having a long serious conversation about it. She said she respected me for saying it like it is, but that she wants to be free. I told her I also want to be free and not change who I am with her in different situations. I told her she already knows I don't have a problem with her doing whatever she wants with other guys, but that I don't want to see it happen right in front of my face.

In the end we didn't come to an agreement. I said I have to think more about this. We made out very intensely and I went home. I haven't had much time to think yet, but I don't think I can convince myself to not feel shitty and loserish seeing her making out with someone else and possibly going home with them right in front of me. I still think it's disrespectful but I don't want to control her either. What should I do? I'm thinking of just avoiding meeting her in public spaces, although this problem didn't show up the other times we were out! I think we might have to have another stupid serious conversation to figure out what kinds of places and events we should avoid going to together.

Thoughts?

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Have you had sex with this girl though? - or does 'seeing for 3 weeks' mean just talking and perhaps kissing every now and then?

I really don't get why you're at the parties with her like a couple. The casual hookups, just text her to come over for food and to watch half of a movie then sex. That's how it goes usually. Nobody needs to know.

Inviting her to these places is a gf and bf thing to do, hence her reaction since she wants to stay single. I have a feeling that you haven't even had sex with her.

If she won't come to your place alone to hookup, then you have your answer if she is or isn't interested. Seems like you're using your social circle and gaming girls that are not so much into you...

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Yes, we have had sex many times. Very intense. I have given her many new experiences.

There was a problem, where I couldn't invite her over to my place, but that was for just 2 weeks. Now I've just moved and the plan has been that she will come over. She has been telling me that she can't wait for me to move so she can come over. She is super interested in me. Well, now I don't know if she's lost some interest since this incident. I really didn't want to have that kind of serious conversation with her but it felt unavoidable when she disrespected me like that. I hope it hasn't made her feel like I'm taking it too seriously, but she knows I have no problem with her fucking other dudes; I just want her to spare shoving it in my face.

Actually we were out at another place a couple of days before the incident I described. I just ran into her there but I didn't feel like kissing her or anything so there was no problem. We were talking in a group and it came up that I was going to this party on Friday. Maybe I should have kept my mouth shut about it. I wasn't going to invite her anyway, but when I mentioned it she said she wanted to go so ok.

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