i've been talking to this girl for a couple of weeks via text messages. we usually text each other for very long hours having good conversations but in reality she acts shy around me and seems afraid to talk in person. i really like her and im in a sticky position because i want to tell her how i feel about her but i also don't want it to affect our friendship>> YES IM IN THE FRIENDZONE PLZ HELP!!! i need to know what 2 do

Hey guys... I will post my question here becouse it is simillar to this one...

She(17) and I(18) were friends for month... We were going on coffe before school and talking about all things... And I went in Schwitzerland on holiday(5 weeks)... And when I came back we weren't as before..... When ever I call her to go out on coffe before school or after... she says that she is busy... and we talk on fb and wait for answer like an hour at least ... I don't know what to talk about with her any more.... What I want is just to date her to have sex...

My skills:
-not so great self-confidence
-could talk all day about IT(programming etc.)
-good listener
-really miss topic to talk with girls
-low expirience ..

What to do?

First of all, quit texting her for hours and set up a fucking date! You're working too slow and that will get you permanently friend zoned faster than you can say "jacking off tonight". BE THE MAN in the relationship.

Second, she's shy, so be aggressive but NICE. Opposites attract. Be the bad boy type, but the one that is nice to HER alone. Don't make the mistake of negging or pulling that shit to attract her. That only works on 9-10s and 7-8s who think they are 9-10s and that is because they are super confident and outgoing.

Third... DUDE... way too early to "tell her how you feel". Do you want to have sex with her or are you just looking for a LTR with no sex? If it's the later by all means tell her how you feel, but if you want some action any time soon take it down a notch and work on keeping it light, fun, and playful, not deep, not romantic, and not intimate. Keep shit caual.

If you do these things I think you've got a shot.

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ok bro thanks for the advice will most definately gave it a try and see how things workout

You need to get this girl out on a date with you. If she isn't interested in going out on date with you, then that simply means that she is not attracted to you. I never spend an excess amount of time texting girls. Be direct and ask her out. If she refuses, then just move on.Have an Abundant mentality.

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also her parents got her kinda on control so its kinda hard 2 get her to go on a date bcause her parents dont let her go out much they are strict any suggestions on wat to do in this suitation??

Convince her to sneak out with you. Or meet the parents and make them like you. If she won't do it, or the parents are dead set on not liking you find a new girl who doesn't have over protective parents. Disclaimer: If you do the first thing I said, be on the watch out at all times for the dad with the shotgun. Just say'n! Is she really worth it?

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you have been friendzoned buddy.

mistake #1 talk talk talk. That's bad. You don't wanna be building a friendship with a girl you just want to fuck. Don't talk for a month. Meet her, take her on a date within 3 days, and try to fuck her that night. If that doesn't work move on to the next one. Both of you guys move way too slow. PUA in most cases is fast. If you want to marry the girl, or have a serious LTR with her then by all means take your time, but you probably won't get much if any sex out of it.

mistake #2 facebook. DUDE! Facebook is to PUA what Masturbation is to sex. Don't waste your time on that crap.

mistake #3 not moving on. Move on. She's giving off every signal that she doesn't want to be with you. If a woman flakes or won't return your calls it means you are NOT going to have sex with her. You aren't even getting a date. She's going to flake on you.

Your skills:
-not so great self-confidence

Learn NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuro-ling ... rogramming and use it on yourself. Also go out and practice meeting girls every day. Make it a goal and priority. For example: at 6:00 pm I will go to the mall and talk to at least 10 hot women, or I will get 3 phone numbers, or something like that.

-could talk all day about IT(programming etc.)

Don't talk to girls about that. You will bore her to tears. Talk about what she wants to talk about and stuff women are into.

-good listener

But are you a good talker? Start learning some new communication skills.

-really miss topic to talk with girls

not sure what this means? lost in the translation. what language do you speak by the way? can you explain this a little better?

-low expirience ..

GO OUT! Get experience. Come back here with questions, and specific questions about one or two things.

Hope this helped in some way. There is so much to tell you I don't even have the time, and I'm not even sure it would translate right. Let me know if you have any specific, detailed questions.

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Well, I was thinking about it.. but It is hard becouse... there is not so many girls... I am in the small city around 10-15k people.. so there is not much girls at age 17-18 so I could do that... If I would do that ... I would probably be some freak... btw. we do not have mall, our cinema is building, so old is demolished...

for example..?



Well If I would go picking up with english.. I would probably make better progress becouse I watched courses and I could catch phrases and I would feel much more confidence...

I am speaking Bosnian/Croatian/Serbian.. they are simillar like US and UK english.... it is only used in my country... and know German a little...

I wanted to say that I don't know which subject to choose when talking to girl...

I have house(live with parents) but I still did not get driver licence(will get it for few months)... so there is less than five minutes witch car from city to my home... but too much to walk... and girls... they are not opend for sex like in other european countries...it's like more than 50% are virgins.. and so do I

How can I use pick ups on girls that I already know..and just wanted to say that girls fucks on first date.. I would call her on glass of wine I think she would come but don't have the place....:/

So I'm guessing you're from Serbia? I don't know much about any of those countries or the culture. Still, from what I've seen culture doesn't really affect attraction all that much. What it affects is communication and how direct you can be about your desires. From what you've told me I would work on an indirect approach, so look that up on this forum and learn what you can.

This is an example of an indirect approach I use all the time. It can be adapted to fit any situation. I've tried to break it down and make it as easy to understand as possible. If you have any questions private message me.

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So give me a number. How many girls do you have to chose from exactly? do you have streets? markets? do you have a job? do you have schools? then you've got women. And the freak thing is all in your head man. women want to be picked up. it's all about how you do it. unless there's only 3 17-18 year olds in your town (which I doubt) your fear is irrational. I think you will find that the limitation is all in your head. Once you have a car and start driving your numbers will go way up.

Since you have less women you don't know to meet, I'd just date around and not focus on sex. you have to walk before you can run after all. after you have a relationship with one woman you can get sex from other women. So my suggestion is wait a bit. don't try to be a player yet. just try to have a few girlfriends and start to understand women better. Make alot of female friends and make it clear to them that's all you want (only with the ones you just want as friends of course). Once you have a car then try to be the mack daddy player.

Once you have these female friends (and make a few off them really attractive) you can have them actually help you out with the ladies. Have them take you shopping and dress you up. Tell them you suck with women and need help and you want their advice. They have alot to give you.

If you want sex with girls you already know you need to get out of the friend zone. Keep in mind though, after the sex you will lose her as a friend. part of getting out of the friend zone is dating other women and being seen with those women by the girl you want to have sex with. She will get jealous and want you. In America and places where we have alot of girls if we get friend zoned we just say fuck it and move on. It's almost too much work honestly.

you need to work on your inner game. really seriously start studying communications and psychology. I don't know what's available in your country in your language, but find whatever you can at your library or online about female psychology, overcoming shyness, and building confidence. I would give you some of my stuff I learned from but file sharing of that nature is illegal over here these days. NLP is going to be a huge help to you though. Research it online and get as much info as you can.

Start studying women and what they like. Do you have a sister? A female cousin? Get to know them better. Find out what girls like. Even an attractive female friend. If you don't know what they like you will have no idea what to talk to them about. In America we read the women's magazines to learn about what they like as well as by just talking with them. watch tv/films.

I'll give you a few hints: clothes, dating, shopping, boys, famous people, psychology, communication, philosophy, religion (the last two work better on really deep thinker type women). Learn about those things. There's more but I don't have time to list them all.

I'm confused about the response to learning new communication skills. I wasn't talking about the language you use I was talking about learning the fine art of talking . In America we have college courses and books on learning communication skills. It's the biggest part of pick up. I'd give you examples but it would be a waste of time because it's such a huge subject and honestly pretty much all of this forum is dedicated to it.

When looking for a subject to talk about with a woman figure out what she wants to talk about. Ask questions.

EXAMPLE:
You: how was your day?
Her: ok, I bought some new shoes and I'm going to see a chick flick tonight with my girlfriends
you can talk about shoes or chick flicks, or her girlfriends. She just gave you 3 subjects. pay attention to what they say to you. just don't talk about anything she may say that is negative or a mood killer.

To learn some communications skills with the ladies subscribe to this guy's feed and watch all his videos, starting with the one I'm posting next. Watch all the ones with Style/Neil Strauss first. They should be in order. This was all extremely helpful for me starting out

2solista's youtube channel
http://www.youtube.com/user/2Solista/vi ... w=0&page=4

Neil Strauss: The Game Video#1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lr0oCNlg ... cp[youtube][/youtube]

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