What do you do when you have been gaming a girl for a while and you guys are constantly batteling over the frame? I mean, I want to portray disinterest so i dont usually call her to hang out for two reasons 1) like i said, i dont want her too think that i am that i am too into her 2) I want it to seem like she is chasing me.

But this presents somewhat of a paradox, if we only hangout when she calls and initiates it then it seems like she is controlling the frame. So, to counter this i usually deny her initial request to hangout by saying that i am busy, but then i move the hangout to a place and time of my own choosing, thus maintaing the frame.

Here is the problem, I think that we each are fairly aware that we are being stubern with eachother as we each are obviously attempting to show disinterest (i.e. we ignore eachothers calls or shuts me down when i ask jher to do something for me). For example, we hung out about a week ago and i told her that i was getting my wisdom teeth out next week and she offered to take care of me. Then, she didnt call me for a while nor I her until the day before the surgery when i sent her the text, "did you prepare yourself to be my sugar mama tomorrow." She replied by trying to play it off like she forgot and asked what time. i told her around 12 and she didnt respond (you know, trying to put herself in power) so after about 2 hours i wrote back, "you know what actually (insert another girls name here) is going to take care of me, thanks though." Is this the appropriate way to deal with this stuff?

So, what do i do at the point when we are both just being rigid assholes to maintain the frame? Do i move past this phase of disinterest and on to something else.