Hey guys,

So I wanted to address this before I go out next week.

I have been reconnecting with a girl I met back in art school a few years ago. Let me give you a bit of the history.

She was my oneitis for a whole year. If my friends had a nickel for every time they heard me talk about her, they all be rich. (pre-Federal Reseve war money printing).

In any event, I was a total AFC around her and I just couldn't get my game together. I eventually worked up the nerve (with the help of one of my friends) to kiss close one night. Apparently despite all my terd burglery she has actually had been attracted to me as well.

A day later she called me and told me she was leaving for San Diego and she couldn't do the long distance thing (me neither).

Well, some time has passed and she has moved back up to the Bay Area and she got into contact with me.

So far I have worked minimal game, since it's been primarly online contact (IM and myspace), but early indications reveal some pretty blatant IOIs. She says she still has a boyfriend, whom she's kinda getting frustrated with because he's not romantic enough and he doesn't go out. My mistake, I brought up the discussion in the first place.

I talked to her this morning and she wanted to see me, but i am busy, so I told her I would call her on monday. I negged, I DHV'd, and I am once again receiving strong IOIS from her which makes me think I could get a kiss close despite her boyfriend.

My sticking point with her, and with most women is kino, I don't stick to my kino escalation and this hinders my ability, and confidence, when the time comes to kclose...

I have a suspicion I could close this easily but I don't want to look like a jerk if I go in for the kiss and she denies me.

I figure working on my kino and compliance escalation techniques will help substantially and aid me in properly diagnosing whether she's being nice, or whether she really is display attraction.

What would you guys do in this situaton?

Hey i am new to this forum but a thing that always works for me when I hesitate about kino escalation is that "you have to be willing to lose her if you want to win her". Can't remember where i got the quote from but think it was the game by Style.

One thing that also helped me in kino escalation is simply to make touching a way to expand your normal communication. Make light kino a habit when you communicate and it will be easier to escalate when with girls.

The key to kino escalation is to do it. Just do it. And do it casually, as if you're the touchy feely guy that is always touching people (men and women). Don't hesitate, gulp, get shifty eyes and awkwardly flop your hand on her shoulder. It's no big deal you just make it happen. Oh and don't make it creepy and linger!

Anytime you spike her attraction up (she laughs, she shows serious interest) then kino her. You can give her a high five, hug her from the side, playfully nudge her.

Hope that helps.