Thanks for your advice man.

Well... I have well and truly moved on. After warming up from my stint at the markets, I got invited out by my good friends, and while we were out, I opened 2 girls right in front of everyone, swept them off their feet with jokes, playing them off my friends, and giving them a fake "tour" of the venue and inviting them out to our upcoming parties. I got their numbers, and they wanted mine too. One of them is the kind of girl that I really find attractive, in a fantasy sort of way - never actually been with a girl that looks like her, and she seems really keen... I've already forgotten what it was like to be interested in the previous girl... this is too exciting. Nothing like a kick in the pants to get you going I think....

I know this may seem weird, but this topic hit close to home. I'm going to be blunt with this post, and I never really said any of this before, but I've listened to Bob Dylan, Hendrix, Tevin Campell, and some other random shit that got me thinking.

Its almost a year since I picked up the game. Even though real progress has been made in the field of women I have made huge strides socially. I'am now the "to go" guy for everything that is going on. I've had crushes on girls plenty of times in the past.

I find it hard for me to open up to girls to get close to me. I know this may sound weird, and I think thats been the main problem for me. I'm hesitant to open myself up to a girl maybe being afraid of rejection? I mean I've had friends that are girls be some of my best friends, but when it came to being a girlfriend, I always turned away from it.. Idk..

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Why is it weird if this topic hits close to home? I'm no psychologist but maybe that's part of the reason you're afraid of being rejected, you worry too much what someone else thinks.

Definitely for me I have had problems letting myself go "yeah I like you too!" in my body language, things I say, tone of voice etc. But up until the other night, the last few incidents, including the one I started this thread about, really hit me in the face and made me realise that was my problem. I could look back on moments when the girl opened up and said or did something that was obviously a huge IOI, and I decided to play it too cool. That's way bad.

Listen to David Wygant's stuff, he's confident, cocky, funny, busts on them, challenges them, stands his ground, but when they give him a compliment, he shoots one right back. And that's so important, and not covered in much of David D's stuff. It's true what David Wygant says - most PUA coaches seem to be about manipulating a girl instead of connecting with her.


Anyway the thing I realised about myself is that I was afraid to open up to them because in the past, when I was not good at attracting women, I would open up and get rejected. Now I'm finding that I'm attracting them but not opening up, and it fucks the whole thing up. Now it's okay for me to open up. Even if I get rejected I know it's still worth it to keep doing it.