Hi,

This is a 27 year old guy from Sweden having problem getting to date three. The second date with the girl was sucessfull and we made out at three different times. We played shuffleboard, everything was playful and we laughed a lot. Maybe I was to nice a few times and let myself into her "frame" but otherwise everything went great. This is btw a waitress that I picked up, on a scale 1-10, a 7 (body an 8 thou). The third kiss was when we said good bye, and it was quite intense. I freezed at one point and she was very eager to continue etc...

After three days I texted this:

Me: Hey hey. Thanks for wednesday, minus the salt;-) (she spilt salt over me, long story). You dont happen to be off work tomorrow? Would be fun to do something then. Time: Saturday 12am

She: I just realized before that I forgot to answer, sorry...Yeah thanks it was nice:)..No, I work all day tomorrow unfortunately. Time: Sunday 2'o clock at night

Me: Drunk text above;)? Ok to bad, foolish of me to hope for the dream scenario that you didnt work a weekend day...

She: Haha no:) Yeah, I though you were smarter than that..

(The coming message is not so good, schould have replied with something like: as a comfort Im way smarter than you or something)

Me: Even I'm human:)! How does it look for you the coming days?

She: Oh yeah:)? I'm busy unfortunately:/

Me: Yeah Im pretty perfect so I understand it comes as a suprise! Ok

She: Haha Yeah it was that...


What schould my strategy be? Whats your view on the situation? Thankfull for help

Give her some space. You are being very eager, Let her miss you, don't be that guy that does this:

you - are you free Mon?
her - no
you - are you free Tue?
her - no
you - are you free Wed?
her - no
you - are you free Thu?
her - no
you - are you free Fri?
her - no

(This is chodey, an interested girl will make an alternative solution)

Next time, ask her in a way that puts pressure on her to make plans, for example:

you- So what day of next week will you be free for that drink?

This puts pressure on her to answer. If she says 'i'm not sure, i will let you know' and then she doesn't let you know then you know you are dealing with a flake.

if she does get back to you with a day, then happy days.

Recently, i have had a few dates where it almost went too well and surprisingly flaked. I think sometimes they think too much into and sabotage the whole thing. But i guess we are powerless to really know the real reason. If you ask her she will say the usual 'it's not you, it's me' which means it is in fact you.

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Thanks a lot for input, appreciated. Yeah I def come out as way to eager. But I wasnt expecting her to not be available "the coming days", and if you put that together with the text with "I just realized I forgot to answer", the odds that she is still intrested are pretty low.

What do you think my next message schould be? I'm thinking about pulling this message that I found in another thread:

"Me: OMG! you would not believe what happen to me last night...
Girl:(Instant Response) What?!? tell me
Me: Oh shit sorry wrong person "

Planning on sending something in line of that on sunday on the morning, just to give "the impression" that Im having fun without her and is with other girls.

We havent talked about doing something in particular. But maybe next week I could shoot out something in line of this: "hey clumsy, so what day next week schould we do something fun ?"

Don't give her the choice, you need to be the man and ask her out. If you don't want to put pressure on her just say you'll be out on that day if she wants to join you.

Remember the purpose of Date 3 is for it to end with sex. Really you should be having sex after Date 2...

Yeah but I dont know what my next message schould be. Any suggestions?

Just send a pic of your food and be like '''mmmm, yummy!" and gauge response. That is how the PEBBLE pings.

A good old line that works is:

'Hey, you never write, you never call, rent is overdue and the kids want their mommy, what shall i tell them?'

Bit gamey I know but a classic. Personally, i would text her with some context that only you and her would know involving something happened with the both of you. But i wasn't there so canned lines is all i got for you

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Ahhh the Classics

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Thanks a lot for input! I will comment these further tomorrow. I just though of a good text. What do you think of the following?:

Just saw a very slow and goofy character on tv..made me think of you:)

That should be okay, might be a bit transparent to her if she has half a brain cell.

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What do you mean by:

might be a bit transparent to her if she has half a brain cell.

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