Okay... I have an odd situation... I own a booth in a mall where I have worked for about 9 months, and I recently bought it, so I work there every day. The problem with this is that I am always around the same people... people who knew me before I started the game, before I had any shred of dignity at all. I was not only not the alpha male, I was under the zeta girl socially. There is a girl who rejected me who works less than 100 feet away, and everyone here is her friend... So how do you maintain any shred of dignity in this? How do you go about keeping your head high when EVERYONE slams you for everything? They are so used to slamming me humorously that it is just habit.

The break-up actually JUST happened, and I handled it VERY badly... I am taking it very well now(I learn fast), but I know I lost all my value in the day or two afterwards.

All the friends I have here suck at building confidence, and I have no time for a social life anywhere else. I am constantly fighting to keep my self esteem alive and kicking. Any advice?

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"Those Who Choose Misery Are Not Worthy Of Hapiness" -- JAL

Hanging around the people that have seen you at your low and before you became an alpha is tough. It's tough and takes a bit of time for them see that your not the same person. I would say first of all who cares about that small group of people. When you go out no one knows who you are, it's a clean slate. Go out and pick up some hot chicks, then one way or another those people will find out. Or just show up with a new broad on your arm every week.

Just stick with it and they'll see you in a new light.

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Just take charge, if she comes up to you, say, "Hey, we can talk later, i'm a little busy." and start talking on the phoen, you dont want to say that and then jsut sit there.. cuz obviously your not busy, show that girl and everyone else you moved on, and start hitting on girls you KNOW are going to be into you around this girl, since she works near you, it shouldnt be a problem. If she notices, she will see a change, if she dosent notice, you got a replacement/rebound girl... its a win/win situation.. but its jsut like when you started, you cant jump n and say, "BITCH IM AN ALPHA MALE.. ROAR!!!" you have to actually act ti and people will take notice..

If you are in a classroom, and the air conditioner suddenly turns off, and its quite... that tiny change can drive someone crazy, even if you didnt notice the air conditioner in the first place.. people notice the little changes in behavior and environment.. I suggest if you ever get a chance, you should take basic college psychology because it can teach you a lot about how people think.

And if your still having all these doubts, and worrying what peopel might think, yo haven't changed that much. What is an Alpha Male? The leader... right? Alpha Males don't sit there and say, "i wonder what this girl is gonna think of me or this is soo tough, how do i prove myself" You just do it, Psychologically, people have a tendency to be very open to communication and they will answer to any description that fits them.. if you go into a store and there are 5 blond girls and yell "hey blondie" most, if not all will turn around. Being Alpha, want to know the secret? Replace your Anxiety with confidence. I have seen some pretty ugly guys with super hott girls... why, cuz they don't give a shit if they are ugly or anything, they take control, so go out there and take control!