First dates... do's... do not's... any solid stuff to run with. Please help the newbies like myself. I feel as if its very hard to juggle the things in your routine, how to role it all out smoothly and timingly. On top of focusing on the, here and now, of the situation . any thoughts would be appreciated.

I have been doing a lot of first dates lately (back in the game after LTR), some better than others. Couple things I noticed

This might be a little controversial, but let me tell you. Kino, kino, kino, and go for the kiss during the date. I have found that dates that went good banter&connection-wise but didn't involve a k-close turned out to be much flakier than less interesting dates that involved a k-close. Worse comes to worse, she isn't hooked enough and won't let you kiss her. Cut your losses and eject. If anything, give it a try a few days later. She will most likely ignore you or flake, but again, cut losses and move on. I am usually quite good at figuring out when they are hooked and will gladly oblige or not. Not sure if it is in the Mystery list, but if they start playing with their hair, it's usually green light.

I have had lots of luck (and someone from the forum also had the same experience) with parks in the evening. I have a little cute park right downtown, which makes logistics easy. If they are down to go "for a walk in the park", it's green light again. Only had one rejection in that venue, but the chick was totally f***ed up anyway

Depending on your personality, several different things might work. Me, I go in a very high energy mode on first dates, and I am naturally very silly, so I keep all my game congruent.

One thing that works if you are doing dinner is to "steal" some of their food/drinks. I usually grab their glass and drink some of their wine/beer/whatever. It seems to exude confidence. Once I said I would make it up to her for the theft, gave her a massage and kissed her on the neck in a BJs. Goose bumps not optional

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Thanks for the help. I got through the first no k close and second date with k clos, lmr and a freezeout. gave it a few days and lets just say my sd card if full of GREAT pics! No lmr in site for the next meet.

Going out on my third dinner date in a year and I HAVE to go in for a kclose. Hanged out with this girl all day last weekend and we had a blast walking around town doing touristy shit. I think she had deer eyes when we said goodbye but this girl does not play with her hair.
What if a girl never plays with her hair?!? Ever? Anyway its going to be a fun night because the place we are eating is kinda weird so good topic for convo. I am going to play with her food as Seagull suggest then take her for a walk to a quiet place and muster the courage to kiss. If I can muster it. Pretty nervous even as I write.

I think you might be over-analyzing then
There's plenty of IOIs, just find the list

And good luck on your date!

EDIT: It's really cool that she has deer eyes and all, but basically she is still just a girl. I am sexting a converted lesbian chick, and she refers to men as "life support system" for the penis. Think of the deer eyes as the "life support system" for the pussy and go all in for the kiss. At the end of the day she is a girl and sure loves sex. Maybe she doesn't love it with you, whatever her reasons, but wouldn't you rather find out and cut your losses ASAP? Don't get too invested in her before you bang her, because that's not gonna work out well for you.

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

The date went well. Maintained lots of eye contact during glass clinking, she played a few times with her hair. We each paid our part of the dinner (I don't think she "earned" a free dinner !: ). I tried to escalate during a 'romantic' walk but did't feel there was a vibe (I didn't even do light kino). No kclose, just deep cheek kisses...after I drove her back home because it was very late and I was concerned for her safety in bad neighborhood.
Now I am stuck what step to take next because I want to see her third time.

Well I'm no pro, but id be analysing the push and pull for one. and two, you need to get more physical and more sexual. you may not feel the romance that's because she is waiting for you to create it. If she pulls away or turns you down then just continue the building comfort and conference as if nothing happened, don't make it weird or a big deal.

Deep cheek kisses are already a sign of a kiss close