You are pulling and pushing in extremes I find. Be more subtle, you're going from alpha to oh youre so sweet after just 1 message from her! Im not saying its bad, but don't do that to much, atleast not until you atleast have sex with her, or else she'll smell the neediness. Keep going cool, stay funny and witty and not emotional, don't get butthurt, keep the ball in her court sometimes. good luck

yeah definitely the last time im dipping my emotional state. its just that 5 days is a damn long time for a meet. i attempted to freezeout for a bit to avoid being needy and turning into a phone buddy. then i went to the gym yesterday..only to find her training there. we said hi, because she was getting trained and was ona timer.

after she left she texted this:

her: Would have liked to chat for longer
ME: ill forgive you this time next time its 20 strjumps followed by barrel rolls screaming my name
HER: hahahaha shit okay deals did you have a workout
ME: sure did. did legs. feelin very alive. How did ya go?


so as you can see this is again going into this phone buddy mode. is it okay to ignore texts? shes overly nice and i dont want to hurt her feelings

also with a girl like this, is it bad to get sexual? usually i know its bad to sext or even verbalize sex until in person. but i dont want to get thrown to that other option lot

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But a bit of sexual into it, you got nothing to lose.

You- "Had a dirty dream about you last night"
Her- "really? Bla bla *look for positive/negative reaction*

If good reaction , continue with being sexual. If she gets freaked out here is your get out of jail card

You- " yeh we were mud wrestling, it was so filthy!"

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id agree with you here, but given what ive seen with this girl (she seems like a very spiritual new age hippy sort. none of her messages on facebook or to anyone seem of that sexual nature), so i think it would be suicide to send something like that.

something fucked up happened yesterday

so she kept texting me throughout the day.


i was at the gym. she said something like i could do with a shower and message. this might have been my hook, but that coulda gone both ways.

i played it safe and said something like its the perfect weather for one then continued to chat.

she asked me my age. told her. shes apparently 20 . i said its only a number. she agreed.

then asked her what time she hits the hay. she said 10 and continued to tell me some dumb shit like "Do you have any pets ha ha"

i just ignored that, then said

so im gunna head home. Lets hang anyways i gtg soon anyways coz i got work tomorrow. Be awesome to hang and talk about ya terrier haha

her: Oh fuck my room is actually such a state, as is my appearance haha can we tmo? Promise we will i'm in town from ten till whenever, could get a drink and hit up that pool game?

3rd Flake....

ME: Munchkin, U dont need to sharpen up to hangout with me haha. Tomorrow might get tricky. I got XYZ's birthday and the *****finals. I kinda have to be there since we organisd it, but il hold u to that promise after the events over. Tomorrow it is

HER: Haha Okay Good to know. ah okay that sounds like a fun day okay thatdbe cool

ME: oh wait, how do u get to town tho? do you drive?

Her: Depends Bus hahah or depending on the weather i walk. right im off to dreamland have a good sleep. talk to ya tomorrow (That was at 9.30)

Im at a loss to explin this. do i ping her first now or just drop this broad alltogether?

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so a little development from the last time....

basically texted her. we were meant to meetup last fri. kept the text banter back and fourth.

i was tied up, so managed to hop a few venues and head over to a friends. there was a girl there, who i knew had liked me. so i ended up making out with her and going to town with her.

txted the HB and we met up. i literally ditched the previous one for this.

Dhv'd introduced her to my mates.

made out, hopped a few clubs.

Told her we're not having sex on the 1st night. but she can come for a cuddle. she said "cool. im not that sort of girl anyways"

through out the night she was clinging onto me hard. at one point i said to her " i dont like labeling things so we'll take it as it comes"

took her home, and done a few things except banging. got LMR when i tried to take her pants off.

now here's where it went wrong. i got a little too affectionate to her and called her cute a few times and kissed her a lot. also said she should come and hang with me a few times when im doing XYZ whatever. she agreed, but this may have given a strong wanting a Relationship Vibe.

texted her on sat to see if she is coming out, but she had a lot of course work and there was a party at her place, to which she said she will mingle but not go out.

she just txted me saying, "Sweet, have a good night DUDE "

arranged to organize a meet on Sunday night to do dinner together. so, i txted her something like

"woke up next to a pie this morning. that ,y call to lay off the servo on my way home. hows your day you beautiful human being?"

Nothing.

is she fobbing me off or am i reading too much into this? did notice her texts weren't as high energy as they were previously. in these situations, is it best to let her contact me because i realise this girl almost never contacts me and i have to do the initiating

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