This is a problem I run into consistently. This year it has happened to me at least three times. Basically, I often open a set very well and get pretty good signs of attraction. Then I isolate the target, and she is usually very warm and receptive. The thing is, I THINK where I am going wrong is that I am not sure if the way she is acting is just her being friendly or if she is giving me IOI's, so to avoid dlv'ing by making a move and having her think I'm weird, I don't make any moves. Later on, I will usually meet up with her again and it will seem like all the previous attraction (or what I thought was attraction) is gone entirely. So right now I think it is one of either two problems:
1. I am reading into things too much and she is not giving me IOI's and the target was never interested in the first place and my sticking point is building attraction
or
2. They are IOI's and I am just missing my chance to make a move at the right time and thus losing her attraction.
What do you guys think? Maybe it's none of these and it's something else entirely. I am in the blue here.
Here is an example: I recently got a new job and the workers had a bar crawl together. It was a lot of fun and while I was there I gamed this HB 7.5 who was really fun and energetic. We took shots together and were having fun and all of a sudden we said "I'm getting hungry" at the same time (this was very funny to us and built some rapport) so we ordered sandwiches and waited outside the bar for the delivery guy to get there. It was kind of a chilly night and so I gave her my jacket and I stood in front of her looking to see if the delivery guy was anywhere in sight. She started rubbing my arm and staring at me. All I did was turn and smile at her. I realize now I should have tried the "Do you want to kiss me?" routine, but I didn't know it at the time, and I don't know how to smoothly redirect rejection to avoid DLV'ing (if you could answer this question too that would be great lol). So I did nothing but turn and smile at her, even though a part of me just wanted to go straight for the kiss. We eventually left to go to her place that night (I didn't want to drive home intoxicated) and while we were there we talked for a while before passing out and she asked me if I was single (in front of the guy who she was apparently seeing at the time, who came with us after meeting us at the bar). So I'm not sure if these were IOI's and I missed my chance or if I was just reading into them too much. I would see her all the time after that (we worked together) and she seemed generally disinterested and like she didn't want me around. I'm over it now and she did move away, but like I said, this happens a lot to me, so this is just one example. But like I said, feedback is much appreciated.
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