| Hey all, so I've been doing mostly daygame, and I decided to mix it up a little and actually hit up the club last night - something I don't usually do. Most of my weekend nights are spent hanging with current school buddies and catching up with old friends. I tried numerous approaches (I think 5-6ish) and was not able to close a single number. Here is my impression:
I approach with a lot of confidence (no hesitation), and have a decent opener, ("Oh wow, I was about to wear the outfit") and I figure that as most girls smile in a mischievous manner and say something like "Oh really?!" After that though, I'm having some difficulty, as the girls either leave completely or I get boxed out. Here are some example scenarios from last night:
2 set - first approach of the night: I open on two girls, they have trouble hearing me, and I realize that I have to talk a lot louder because this set goes downhill as I have to repeat my opener three times. I get a few giggles, but when I try to continue to conversation, one of them nods a few times pretending to have heard me, then gets a "this is awkward look" on her face, then they have to "go to the bathroom."
What I learned: Talk louder goddamit.
2 set: I open on two chicks, being sure to talk loud - use the opener, they laugh, we introduce ourselves, then we start talking for about a minute about clothing. I get a little kino in touching my clothes and hers, but after a while the conversation fizzles out, and the chicks start talking to each other, making me look like the third wheel out. At this point it becomes a little awkward as they've put a little distance between me and them, and rather than look desperate, I eject.
What I learned: I really don't know - maybe work on conversational skills after the opener or the initial topic of convo.
3 set - one of the girls is the hottest girl in the club: I open, get a laugh and a smile, then we exchange names, immediately afterwards, I introduce myself to her 2 friends, but as soon as I turn back to her I get boxed out by the hot girl- meaning she turns her back to me entirely and talks to her friends.
What I learned: Focus on the target and try not to divide too much attention between her and her friends.
How do I improve my skills and carry the momentum of a decent opener? I've tried talking briefly about clothing, which is something many women relate to, in order to build rapport. It seems like the convo fizzles out after the open. I do think my body language is quite confident and my body positioning is so that it's difficult for the target to turn her back to me and to her friends because I literally put myself among the group of friends.
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