| the thing about this, is as soon as you start to assign the roll of AMOG to some guy and think you have to actually actively do anything, you will probably just make things shit for yourself, between a group of people in terms of social status or ''social value'' the person who reacts the least, holds the most value, basically, the guy who speaks his mind the easiest while keeping his cool and projecting his own frame holds the most status in the group
just don't pay attention to other guys, that's all you have to do,
you're at a club, you approach a girl, a guy beside her says something, you just ignore him, and talk to the girl unless he is a real issue (like going to pull her away from you, going to cause you physical harm, has rapport with target and she knows him better)
even when you have to address him, don't pay attention to him, address him through the girl
if he is super persistant and you absolutely can't help but react cause he is making you feel insecure, then it becomes an ego thing and there are two ideas to approach things from there
-calling him out, getting into a pissing contest and let things get continually more abrassive until it leads to actual violence, in this case this option is probably only viable if his sub communications and body language say pussy or you feel like getting into a fist fight (basically this implies insulting him and being better at it until he snaps, still the guy who cares less, keeps his cool more, and doesn't emotionally react while holding his own frame will look better socially)
-positive re-frames and trying to use the group agaisnt him
but all in all, the easiest most effective thing to do, is just not care, focus on the girl, ignore the guy, just lead the conversation with her and don't worry about him, if he is trying to give you attention and you don't react, good or bad, he is actually just raising your value as long as you don't react, and if the attention is negative and you don't react, he just looks bad, he says something sarcastic or seems like some strawman tactic or some compliance test or what ever, just treat it just like you would if a girl was shit testing you, just don't react and ignore his shit, focus on the task at hand
there is a post of some guy who went to a mall or something and some guy comes to ''amog'' he has rapport with the girl, he locks her in and makes it impossible to ignore him, so what do you do?
address the girl, ''who's your friend''
don't talk to him, talk to the girl, she says it's her boyfriend, then set over, she tells you who he is and it's not a boyfriend, he is automatically blown out, all you have to do is not get insecure, and wait until he goes away, don't think of him like a threat, he is just a person and it would be better to make a friend later then an enemy because you are insecure
he starts saying sarcastic passive agressive shit, and addressing the girl trying to tool you to, just keep doing the same thing, ignoring him and not reacting
like for example,
random guy: ''you should give this guy your number, he looks like he likes you''
you: *address girl, not guy* ''cool, that guy's got the right idea, you should give me your number, tell us what else she should do? I like where you're going with this''
just ignore him as much as possible, and lead, just keep the focus on the girl and not him, if the frame is not productive don't buy in, if he says passive agressive shit, just re-frame it and change his context, don't start attacking him, don't start saying passive agressive shit, don't start talking to him and being friendly, let him try to talk to you, ignore him and speak to the girl, stay on your task, and don't shift your focus until your task is complete
if you find you are regularly getting tooled chances are some of the following are true for you
-your body language sucks and you subcommunicate anxiety instead of comfort
-you could use some time in the gym
-you are reactive and get insecure around people who you assign value to (you're easy to troll and get a rise out of)
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