| There are a few key tips to avoid being the nice guy. If you’ve been friend-zoned your whole life, then you know what I’m talking about. I was there once too. Every woman I talked to branded me as her “best friend.” While it’s nice to be friends with hot girls, it’s a lot nicer to actually be dating them. I didn’t even have my first kiss until I was 14. Yes, I realize that is still young, but I couldn’t tell you how many chances I had before then, and I blew it every time. As the years went on, I became more aggressive and learned a few tricks that helped keep me out of the friend zone, which naturally allowed me to avoid being the nice guy.
1. Be Aggressive. Don’t punch anyone. Don’t hurt anyone. Don’t overstep your boundaries. Instead, take your interactions with women to the next level. If you meet a woman and you’re interested in them sexually, or as a girlfriend, then step up your game. The biggest difference between friends and potential boyfriends is that the latter flirts. Touch them. Give them compliments. Tease them. FLIRT. Don’t just stand in the corner and shy away. Be aggressive! State what you want. Let the woman know how you feel. It turns a woman on to know that you want her. Don’t play hard to get. That’s a childish game. Always be open with your feelings, but make sure you do it in a classy way.
2. Be outcome independent. Most men are scared to be aggressive because they think they will be rejected. If you don’t make a move or get rejected, then it’s the same thing! You’re going to end up in the same place, gaining nothing. Logically, the best step to take is to try and go for it. Don’t worry about what’s going to happen. That should never be your focus. Focus on the present and not what the outcome will be. Women can tell when you’re just trying to get in their pants. They can also tell when you’re scared to flirt. Instead, find the middle ground that will let her know you want her, but aren’t a creepy guy.
3. Do what you want. This goes beyond women and falls into the life tip category. Don’t worry about what other people think about you. Do what you want, when you want. This does not mean break the ethical/moral code. It means don’t be a people pleaser. Life is too short to live on other people’s terms. Nobody is more special than you. I look at the world and put EVERYONE on an equal plane. If that’s the case, then why shouldn’t you get what you want? You want to buy that expensive sweater you’re too scared to purchase? Buy it. You want to tell that beautiful girl she looks amazing in that dress? Do it. You want to quit your job and work on your passions. Go for it! Start taking action today and don’t wait an extra minute.
4. Be willing to lose friends. In the course of making yourself happy you will come across a lot of people that won’t agree with your choices. Sometimes friends can’t handle their other friends changing for the better (dark, but true). Just remember, in the end, those aren’t your true friends. You might even lose a couple of your girl friends along the way. Once you tell them you have interest in them, they may not want to be your friend anymore. Unfortunately, that’s their loss. You did what you wanted and took action and you should be proud of your confidence. In reality, they were probably not your friend to begin with. It wasn’t an equal friendship, because you were attracted to them. Don’t be scared to potentially lose these people in your life. You’re miserable when you’re with them, so it won’t be any worse without them. You want friends who support your every decision and you want to have the freedom to tell any woman how you truly feel about them.
5. Don’t be an asshole. Through all of this, you will avoid being the nice guy, but don’t be an asshole. The opposite side of the spectrum is treating people terribly and being selfish. This is NOT the path you want to go down, because you’ll be more miserable then when you started. Creating the life that you want is not selfish and not mean. If you harm people along the way and make them feel lower than you, you’ve put yourself in the “asshole” category. While it appears that the assholes get hotter women more frequently, they also end up being the most insecure people. Usually, they end up with a life you wouldn’t want. Don’t be an asshole. Be a man. _________________ My FREE E-BOOK for instant attraction: 10 Simple & Unknown Tips to Increase Attraction - http://www.trippadvice.com
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