hey guys,

Idk what it is about me but...its like when i hook up with a girl..we are making out and like all of a sudden her clothes are off and she wants to have sex....

Ive tried like many things to get head. I love having sex...but like sometimes i just want a bj...plus... I feel like im starting to get a bad rep with certain groups of ladies.

And i find that having sex makes girls much more attached...which brings me to my next question..how do you guys like F-close and then have it not be a big deal to the chick where she goes around and tells all of her sorority sisters the next day that we are dating ....which..has....happened to me.

Im sick of having sex and always being the bad guy afterwards when i tell them..."remember i said i didnt and i still dont want a relationship" I guess the solution to this is not having sex... but cmon ha

Do you ask for BJs? I mean, you've got to have a certain air of tact, but from my experience, and from what I've heard, all you've got to do is ask.

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I've found that the key to getting a BJ is to be the leader in the bed. Now I'm not telling you to put on your army pants, captains jacket and start going all Jack Nichelson from A Few Good Men on her. Unless she deserves a code red, well then maybe you might have to. HAHA. What I mean by this is to be the one of the two of you to be initiating escolating. ABI (Always Be Initiating). Be the one that is always moving things forward. YOU be the one to start kissing her, then YOU be the one to start making out, then YOU be the one to start forplay, fingering, oral.

I feel obligated to say this because I know there's gonna be some guy out there that's gonna take this the wrong way. ABI has nothing to do with forcing anything onto a girl!!! If she doesn't like what your doing then slow things down or stop what your doing. ABI is about being a leader not a rapest.

If you have a problem going down on a girl well then I don't have a answer for ya besides just ask her. But if you ask her be confident in what your saying.

ha i actaully LOVE going down on girls..Theres only a few better feelings than that of when a girl is going wild with her legs wrapped around your legs.But i usually stay away from it unless i really know the girl and i know that she doesnt have anything nasty down there.


My buddies are always like dude just gently push her head down during a makeout...this isnt my style. it seems full of douchebaggery.

I think that you and I are on the same page. Going downtown is pretty fun, I enjoy it. I'm not sure about what is up with your friends, not my style either.

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I third that actually. There is the taking the lead issue, but from my experience, if a girl WANTS to go down, she will. My style is to take the lead with what I'm doing to her, making sure that she is DEFINITELY enjoying it. The more she enjoys it, the more she will WANT YOU to enjoy it too, because she will want more of you.

And yes, going down on her . . . well, if you know what you're doing . . . she will never forget you

One thing I could suggest if she's not giving the bj's is to suggest 69 with her. That way, you get to take care of her like you want, and you get it in return too. I've taken that route several times. Even if at a certain point she has to stop working on me because she . . . loses control. But I don't complain about that one . . .