basically, I want to make it with this girl that I had a thing with in my first year of uni. Since then she's had a long term boyfreind that she's just brocken up with and still lives with. At this party last nite she was flirty and complained that I wasn't giving here enough attention etc. I text messaged her to day and she was forthcoming. What should I do to make her want me? Any advice much appreciated.

dont give her the attention that she wants.... just be cool and not needy... ask her to come with you for tea and some stimulating conversation on a weekday... tell her that way if she's weird you can leave with minimal time wasted

That sounds abit mad, but i'll try it n e way. U mean tea as in the drink not a whole meal yeah? n e 1 else got ideas?

Seems like she had quite a serious relationship so she probably misses things which you don`t do so much when you are in LTR (especially girls). Take her out, go wild, party whole nights if she likes to, do some adrenaline sports together, show her how fun life can be with you. After that, pull back a bit, tell her you like her but you don`t want anything with her untill she lives with his ex. She will not want to lose you after you made her life fun again, she`ll make an effort to be with you.

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I'm coming round to the tea idea but I doubt she's into adrenalin sports and neither am I at all. She's an English student and her ex was a graphic design guy so I'm thinking maybe a shakespeare play? Does anyone think thats a big mistake? The plan so far is the tea. Do people think I should talk to her in person about the tea, txt message her or call her?

This is what you say, IN PERSON:

Look, I'm going to get some tea/coffee/ etc. later at this great place i heard about. You should come. I'm going at (x) time.

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This is what you say, IN PERSON:

Look, I'm going to get some tea/coffee/ etc. later at this great place i heard about. You should come. I'm going at (x) time.

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-Duke

Cheers buddy, That's what my freinds think aswell. If I get the cahnce to talk to her in person, I'll do it.

Okay, so if u rememeber with with regards girl no 2 and the missed k closing opurtuities and the IOIs I'm pretty sure I had at a house party a few days ago: Basically, the other day at this party she was asking me for three words that defined her. I gave her two: "Extraverted" and "enthusiastic". I said I'd give her the other word later.
So today on MSN, we had short convo and I negged her a bit - bla bla balh.
I started a further convo which just ran

Me "I just though of the third word"
Her "For??"
Me U
Me 2U asked me at the party"
So she asks
Me "I'll tell u later"
Her oiiiiiiii
Me: I gotta help my freind with an essay
Me Dont miss me too much
Her: suspense
Her: Have fun !!x

So..... What should the next word be? Should I have a memory bank of different words to fit different contexts so I can play it by ear? I dont want this to be anticlimatic.

Any suggestions, will be well received.