@Cygnus-Great point.

If that's the case,I can understand the reason for the flaking.

One cannot expect a girl who's taken to be decisive about meeting up with another guy.

I generally dont ask girls whether they're single or not[dont care].

But since she's flaking so much,I'd have to ask in subtle ways.

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Well your time is valuable, and her bailing on you kinda comes across as disrespectful. You should try telling her that up front.

Nah I wouldn't ask her in a subtle way, just ask her what her problem is and why she keeps flaking, tell her you think it's disrespectful. Don't makes excuses for her, if she's flaking because she's got a bf she shouldn't agree to meet you in the first place.

@AdamThomas-Agreed.

But guys,I really feel that the issue here is a lack of rapport or comfort,which is the key component to flaking in the 1st place.

I know to myself that I havent build any comfort at all.

I frigged up by seducing this girl in the wrong order.

It happens at times.

I went straight from attraction to meet up.

That's a big no-no!!

So it was my mistake.

I totally skipped comfort and building a connection with her via phone convo'.

Whether she has a bf or not-that doesnt matter much.

I made the mistake of seducing her backwards.

Im humble enough to recognize my mistakes.

I've been correcting them since yesterday.

I got on the phone with her and built some connection for about 5 minutes.

I need to keep doing this for about a week or so,then re-initiate the meet-up as she becomes more comfortable.

The only risk is being LJBF'd,but Im too skilled to let that happen.

Anyway,thanks for the insight guys,I know what I have to do:comfort/rapport.

She doesnt know me enough to want to meet.

But I fooled myself into thinking I could jump straight to seduction phase by skipping comfort(which is key).

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If there was no rapport/comfort she shouldn't have agreed to meet you, don't make excuses for her mate

It's always harder to get them to meet you at weekends because that's when they want to see their friends, try meeting her in the week. Yeah there's a big risk of being LJBFed if you're ringing her having long conversations trying to build comfort. You've now gone from the guy that texts her trying to meet her to the guy who calls her and tries to chat her up over the phone. I think you should try to meet her this week, and if she flakes leave her alone. She's just enjoying your attention right now, and by calling her all the time even after flaking on you twice she's gonna respect you less and less.

@AdamThomas-You're right on that;she should not have agreed to meet up if she wasnt comfortable.

I guess that's just the irrational part of women that puzzles me.

I definitely wont be on the phone for 20 min.everyday.

I just dont want to run the risk of being a "texter" who's afraid of engaging her on the phone.

Seems like it's a balancing act here and trying to calibrate correctly.

By mid week,if she doesnt get serious,Im gonna freeze her out few days.

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Hey guys,here's a link to an updated post about the same chicc & I.

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