I'm finding that one of my sticking points is I can't think of what to do on the second date. I've done so much reading the past year of pua blogs, etc that says 'never buy a girl a drink', 'never take her to dinner', etc. that my wires are all crossed.

I've been on first dates with a few great girls of late. Two have already said yes to meeting again. I met them for drinks on each first date, and they each suggested getting dinner after that.

I live a block away from one of these chicks. I don't want to be the boring 'lets meet for drinks at the neighborhood bar' guy, but then again, this couldn't be a better scenario for getting her back to my place. Just curious what anyone's thinking on 2nd dates is in general.

2nd dates should actually be lovely and exciting, because you'll go curious knowing who the person you met the previous time is, you will have to see if the girl is fun enough where you can relax with her, and have a really fun time.

People should focus on having that attitude, block all other attitudes like :

- I just want to K-close, F-close her, so i need to know exactly what to say
- I hope she's into me

NO, you already know she will be (or is already) into you because you're a great guy, you need to see if YOU are into her or not.

And just enjoy the process of day 2's, by having fun, showing her that you're not easy, and she has to work to get you, and that you appreciate women and love them.

that is definitely great attitude to have. What I do is say things I like to do. I'm ukrainian and was dating this girl who qualified the shit out of herself saying how she can cook this traditional ukrainian meal for me and for our second date she made me dinner ( well we cooked together, but she sorta hinted at doing that) I find it's a great bonding experience, but you gotta have a decent amount of comfort to have her at your place relaxed making food. Overall I find it's not bad, and Best of all save all the sexual escalation till at least the third date since women tend to only get sexual with a guy on third dates and after. Don't rush anything man, it keeps attraction and be challenging especially if she's very hot.