Hey guys,

I'm quite new here, but I've read some books, listened to some audio from various "guru's" and I think I've found my sticking point.

I'm a fairly good looking guy, my clothes are O.K., so getting attraction isn't very hard for me in most cases, now that I started to use some canned-material.

Although, I have the same problem over and over again. I'm good at making conversation, being funny and slightly teasing and building comfort. But it feels like I keep losing the attraction the longer I talk to a girl. I think it's because I don't know how to recognize the window, when it's there, and how to jump into it, and get that sexual vibe going.


So I wanna ask you guys for some advice for:

1. How can I recognize the window when it's opening? (maybe I just suck at reading IOI's from a girl. Other then asking my name or just anything about me, or giving me positive body language, are there other common IOI's?)

2. How can I jump into the window? (How to get that tension flowing through her body. Making her think like, "Damn, this guy is cool. I wanna make-out with him.", Instead of "Damn, this guy is cool. He could be a fun friend!")



Thanks in advance,

Jabba

be more upfront dont beat around the bush, I think ur problem is that you try to disguise the fact that your trying to get into her pants in the first place
let her know

Try talking about sex in some capacity. It shows your not afraid of your sexuality and you're confident enough to openly discuss it with anyone. Obviously avoid being sleazy but try and tease her and create innuendos out of things she says.

For example

She says something like "i've only got a small mouth" and you'd reply "haha bet you can't fit much in there can you?!" *smile*

Or use the classic "Did you know that 87% of girls masturbate in the shower, the other 13% sing, do you know what they sing?" "No" "Oh...you must be one of the girls that masturbates in the shower" *smile*