Ok here's my problem: I'm naturally a good dresser & my looks ain't exactly nething I'd complain about & I'm very clean cut so "attraction" may come a little easier to me... But problem is.. When random girls in public are attracted to me..& give me clear IOIs like looks or smiles.. I have a way of blowing them off.. I'm socially awkward I guess its like ugly duckling syndrome.. Cuz i was put down alot when i was a kid...but I've hid it behind sarcasm and apathy for so long that it's kinda became my natural demeanor.. Which is fine around people u know because they get that it's jus how u are n don't take it personal. But this is causing me to cockblock the hell outta myself..

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Mate, you wanna change who you are?

You have got to 'act it till you got it'..

Stop thinking about this stuff so much.. that is why I think the 3 Second Rule is so f@cking good - you don't have enough time to think about all your negative thoughts, you just go out there and your playful mindset will naturally shine through along with the techniques you have learnt..

Check out this video:

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ay, I hear you, same stuff here.

just keep flirting, without any commitment, and game the hot ones

experience tells me the not so good looking ones have really hot friends and the ugly ones give up on guys that they know are above their league really quickly.

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This sounds like a fear of success. Your frame's all jacked up and built around being undesirable thanks to your formative years so strangers who actually gasp-! react positively to you are approached with caution because surely the hammer is coming down at some point. Too Cool for School only works to a certain point, because after that she'll feel unattractive and bring the hammer down to move on to someone who will at least make her feel good. Don't fear success, roll with it. Every story lacks a happy ending until it's written so go write your own.

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I know exactly what you mean and I dislike this a lot about myself. I'm on a turning point, and it's all got to do with my body language and confidence. I don't know if it'll help you, but it sure did help me.

Here's what I do: Shoulders back and smile.

At first it seems odd to smile about nothing, but just before you want to smile think of something funny. It can be anything. I try to think of recent things that made me smile, and then I can't hold it back. Of course not laughing out loud, but it helps wonders. And it can literally be anything: funny situation you've encountered, funny youtubeclip you saw, anything that made you laugh out loud at the time.

This, with the right posture and the mindset of "I'm awesome" makes you feel confident, and confidence shows off, getting positive reactions which make you more confident. So basically fake that you're confident, and you'll become confident. Same as the smile.

When you get these things right, you can only ruin it by saying the wrong things. But if you're happy, and passionate, these things will work out a lot easier. Happy people are relaxed and worry-free people.

Hope this will help you, it certainly helped me

I just form an approach habit--connect my eyes to my feet. I always approach automatically soon it becomes weird not to.

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