It's been a month since breaking up with my ex but the thought of her keeps going through my head when sargeing. Thought I'd leave this here and get some proper 'STFU and get out there' replies from you guys to get my head back in the game.

I've even sorted out a fuckbuddy ffs!

same story bro

STFU and get out there

Cheers guys, it's always good to know there's someone else feeling the way you do and always good to know there are people telling you to man the f up!

Best way to get over a woman is to get under a woman

STFU and get out there.

And, yeah, sucks man, just keep it up.

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Don't hate, just dominate.

Ok since I've stated the obvious "STFU and get out there".

Let me give you some Advice

Are you listening?

This is very important and its from experience

You're not going to forget her

She has apparently meant a lot to you and played an important role in your life, so why would you want to, you weren't meant to forget her

What you need to put your efforts toward is getting on with your life
Keep log of what you are accomplishing and it doesn't have to be girls
just because you get another girl doesn't mean you're over the first
when i was in your position i worked out a lot and made a lot of new friends
they were all girls but i had no intention to boink them (well not then)

I still think about my ex but who doesn't, I do , you do , everyone does
Focusing on you is the key out of this.

Thanks for the advice man.

I have to think that this is an opportunity and not a loss. I have a lot that I want to work on so it's time to be the very best I can be

Just found out she's now going out with a 17 year old drug addict and is fully into drugs herself now. Silly mare!

keep yourself occupied and stfu, get yourself back out there and have a good time. boinkin other girls wont make you forget but at least u'll be havin fun.

NLP yourself amigo, break those old anchors and neuro associations. Emotions are beyond logic, affirmations towards healthy emotions will be a nice weapon in your battle. I highly suggest getting some Anthony Robbins tapes. Begin a path of personal developtment, find some associations that'll aid you in your journey, find a mentor, find positive influences in general. I'm sure you want to be great, there's plenty of help man!

"Act the way you want to feel, then soon you'll feel the way you act."

Ps Watch "The Secret" it'll change your life!

My number one tip from personal experience, is stop the whole "I want you to want me" bullshit. Wanting her to still want you is the root of it most of the time. The source of the pain is that she no longer wants you. Part of this is damage to your self esteem/ego, or in extreme cases your actual identity. The rest of it is simply the belief or fear that you will never find anyone else.

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Step 1 is stop needing validation. Most of your validation , if not all, should come from within yourself. By validation I mean "I deserve to exist and I am ok". I'm not talking about ego trips here. '

Step1a Get rid of or distance yourself from anyone in your life that drags you down. If they drag you down, they are not your friend, so don't worry about cutting off "friends". Who you associate with matters

Step 2 is get comfortable being without any female attachments or even dates and don't even try for dates or sex for a while. If you are lonely it doesn't mean you need a date, it means you need a life. Get some more activities going. You can't NEED a woman, because it gives away your personal power and lots of other bad things. DON'T BE NEEDY.

Step 3 After you feel better internally then start worrying about your outer image. Get new clothes, lose a little weight, change your haircut, etc. Become aware of the effect that you have on other people and make some improvements.

Step 4 Hit bars and clubs to get live interaction with women you don't know. Do not be too goal oriented, this is just practice. Stop caring about outcomes and just be in the moment and become immune to approach anxiety and rejection.

Step 5 Start dating women without getting attached to any of them. Just interact with them. Be honest with them that you just had a breakup and they will give you space. The ones that like you will give you sex also. If you are honest you will not be guilted into an attachment and there will be no reason for drama.

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these steps may need to be repeated because you will probably have setbacks. Thats fine, just keep repeating them until you feel confident and competent
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At that point you are back to normal, and its up to you if you want to get sucked into another relationship again. If you do want a relationship, you will have a clear head and several options to choose from, so there is a better chance it will be a good relationship.