I have known this girl for many years, but just until recently I began gaming her. I built up attraction with her in person at some grad parties over the weekend and I decided to try something unconventional with her...
She is a tall, slender woman, who is a total girly-girl. As we were talking she told me of her possible plans to become a trainer in Russia, and without hesitation I took a step back began to laugh and tease her about this (making impressions of big manly women, etc.).
So, after those events took place I came up with the idea of taking her to work out with me at a new gym. I had been wanting to check this gym out anyways so I figured it's a great opportunity to continue from where we left off.
Three days later I facebooked her this:
Subject Line: Hey Punk (decided to use this after I read it on here)
Me: I am going to work out at a new gym thursday to see if it is good. You are a fun person, so come along with me.
P.S. If you behave, I'll let you train me.
HB8.5: haha where is this gym at?
i go to lakeland, punk
Me: It is by (location irrelevant). I do have to warn you though, I am pretty intense. Do you think you could handle it?
HB8.5: hmmm idk if youd be able to handle my workouts ha
Me: oh no! don't tell me you're one of THOSE girls...
don't even think about bringing this crap to the gym:
( link to jillian michaels "butt of course" work out)
HB8.5: pft thats for little girls
Me: yea...I'll bring a work out for you and a work out for me. I will make it harder than the little girl routines you are used to.
HB8.5: haha im actually not big into working out, i hate it, with a passion.
Me: So you just want to come watch me then. That seems weird, but then again I do look pretty good in a sleeveless...
HB8.5: haha ill have tennis, i thought billy was your workout buddy?
Me: Lol how did you come up with that idea?
HB8.5: billy told me a while back that you guys were working out together
Me: Billy and I have worked out occasionally. Maybe one or two times. Go play tennis, rest a little, and we'll get in touch after that.
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I think things were going well until I told her I was bringing a workout for her and that I was going to make it hard. She probably misinterpreted my playfulness and the idea of going to bust her ass did not appeal to her. It might have even scared her...
Maybe I'm over-analyzing, but I think that was the turning point. What are some suggestions you guys have for me?
I know I should probably drop it and move on, but this is a quality girl whom I want to start a relationship with.
I could FB or call her tomorrow and act like I know I scared her, but I hate backtracking and explaining myself, so I want to do something else if it is available.
UPDATE: it's been a few days late and I really don't care anymore if she isn't interested, but I do want to learn what could have been improved in order to prevent this.
What do you guys think?
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