I'm surprised I couldn't find any advice using search, but the search on this forum is weak since you can't search by title only. I digress...

I went to a lounge with a mixed group of friends, and on my way in one of the waitresses looked familiar. I said hi and she remembered me: I dated an attractive aquaintance of hers for 5 years. We chatted briefly and I went to join my friends. HB was probably too busy to notice my behavior with my friends (DHV, holding court, body language) but several times she'd walk by with good eye contact and a smile.

She finished and I caught her on her way out. Again we chatted for a minute or so. I teased her about leaving without saying goodbye, and was hoping to coast on social proof and the fact she knows I dated an attractive girl for ages. I directly told her I'd like to take her out sometime. She agreed, and I took her number. She seemed receptive, hugging me as she left.

I texted her several hours later to say it was cool to bump into her and I'd talk to her later in the weekend, with no reply, not that it really required one. I called about 36 hours after, which went to voicemail (no confirmation she owns the # either).

I'd like to make a 3rd try before forgetting about it; not that I'm desperate I'm dating another HB but I remembered a couple things about the waitress and think we'd be very compatible.

If I call, I risk getting screened completely, and I think continuing after that would be AFC. I was thinking of sending a text, telling her not to be silly or something along those lines. Don't think I can be too harsh since its possible she couldn't answer.

What do you guys do in this case?

My opinion, the mistake was texting too soon after, should have called a day or 2 later at a random time. That way she still would be thinking of you a bit. This can be saved, but don't call again ( I wouldn't) Why not just go to the venue again? Be yourself.

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I thought it was considered 'OK' to text after just to say who it was... not so much?

It seems a little stalker to go back of 500 places my we could go drink. The angle seems very AFC, even non verbally... "you didn't answer the phone so I came back to say Hi."

I was thinking more along the lines of a text which will get read, to demonstrate some value and elicit a reply.

I didn't mean go back and say why didn't she get in touch, go with a friend or the group as per normal, socialise normally. There are no real rules in pickup, every individual develops their preferred techniques.

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Yeah of course it would be AFC to call her out on it; and at the same time I think she would be unlikely to come by and do the same.

I see the advantage is I can demonstrate further value (if she notices, or isn't busy and stops by). Couldn't I do the same thing with a witty text, though that leaves the ball in her court.

Many of you must have to deal with this..?