Sounds like a conflict between qualities and technique, which creates issues because the 2 are meant to work harmoniously. (Google Qualities VS Technique)
Also look up the audio with Sinn and Vision talking about qualification, because that's what helps you keep the girl if you want more of a technique based answer.
Try also Ross Jeffries's Unstoppable Confidence, that course alone will do wonders for your game if you haven't heard of it. It keeps you sincere and authentic which will also help ya out because it creates the qualities that need to become embedded into your personality to get the results you desire.
You asked how other PUA's handle this, and it really all depends on who you ask. I'm all about the inner game so David D is my homeboi. Here's the site that got me into it all by the way. Enjoi and hope I helped.
www.askmen.com